“Until you make peace with who you are,
you’ll never be content
with what you have.”
– Doris Mortman
Wise advice for today. At any age and stage of life, but especially during a milestone year like turning 50 or a dramatic change in life like divorce, we can become untethered, depressed and feeling like the huge dark cloud of lack surrounds us. It’s a normal transition I think as I have heard from many people that they’ve experienced it too. It’s just one of those life lessons I think that we have to use to grow in our understanding. But I won’t tell you it’s easy, because many times, it’s not.
I think the best way to be content with what you have, is to be grateful for what we have. Simply put, count your blessings. Sometimes we have to get still and quiet in order to find the blessings in order to count them. Because when you’re in the thick of chaos, fear or worry, all you can perceive is lack. I don’t have enough money, I’m alone, I’m scared, nobody cares, I can’t do this etc.
Have you ever felt that way?
What I’ve found is that you can have all the riches in the world, but if you don’t understand your true self, nothing can make you happy. Finding contentment and peace in just being yourself allows everything else to fall into place.
Because when you’re at peace within yourself, many changes occur in your life. You radiate the peace within, you make better decisions because you are not in the chaos or worrying about superfluous stuff that may or may not affect you. You look better, feel better, treat yourself and others better. You sleep better, you think better and you act with integrity and a loving heart in all situations. You may even be able to view the chaos from an observer’s point of view which allows you to see the entire situation, relationships, and even others’ points of view without engaging with our own stuff getting in the mix.
Sure, I could tell you that you are perfect, whole and complete, but if you’re not in a peaceful place in your heart, then they are just words that you will rebuff. They will mean nothing to you, unless you begin to understand yourself. Understanding yourself allows for you to open old wounds, maybe even from childhood, air them out and heal them. It allows you to forgive yourself and others and to not hold onto the grief that the past clutches. It’s dropping the sandbags of remorse and guilt and simply allowing yourself a new start today, right this very moment.
Stop trying to impress others with your material things and careers. By all means, continue to work hard so that you have those things if that is valuable to you. But take the time as well for quiet time, for spiritual inspiration, for stillness in your soul.
Be content with who you are first, and everything else will fall into place.