It’s taken me a long time to get to where I wanted to think about dating after my divorce. I knew myself better than to jump into it when I wasn’t fully healed. I just didn’t have it in me to trust someone after my marriage fell apart.
But there’s this little nudging that’s going on, an increasing awareness that I’d like to inch out there into the dating world. However, I’m hesitant. In my head, whenever I even thought about it before now, I just felt like an old friend from long ago would pop up into my life again and we’d reconnect. While that’s still possible, I’m not holding out for that fairy tale. Again, I’m still ever hopeful, even though I can’t think of anyone in particular that I’d like to reconnect with at this point. I’m just letting Cupid do his thing!
In the meantime though, I’d like to start dating but the stories I’ve heard divorced and single friends tell me are amazing. It seems like dating has changed drastically since I was free to date and I haven’t dated since 1989 so I’m a bit rusty. I know I can flirt because that’s a muscle that I always kept using with my own hubby until the final years. I’m ok looking, but I’m 50 and I have wrinkles like some of us do at this age. I haven’t stepped it up with botox yet, but that’s a possibility eventually when my finances get better.
I’m just looking for someone to get to know, to go out to dinner and a movie with or maybe even walk on the beach. And see what goes on from there…
I’ve been regaled with stories about how men lie on those dating apps. Photos which are 10 + years old, men who show up waaaay shorter than their stats or men who simply want to buy you a drink and then go to bed. Few of my friends have had anything steady or true from the dating sites so I’m wary of them. And of course, I know that the crazy stories are the ones you hear more of than the successful ones! What makes a better story to tell women who’d like a relationship but haven’t found one? The I found love on Match or the Tinder nightmare which is now humorous?
Have you had any success with them? What apps did you use? Are you still dating that person? What is it like out there in the dating world after divorce and being 50 years old? I would love to hear what you have to say so please share!