After The Divorce


I wrote this a week after the divorce and intended to post it, but somehow other posts seemed more important.  But this is really how I feel.  It’s taken me a long time to get to this place of being happy that I’m divorced.  Frankly, I never thought I’d be here, but I am really grateful that I am.

So you see, there’s hope for you too if you are lamenting your divorce or if you think that you’ll never find peace.  Time does heal and even though you may hold some type of love for your EX, you will find joy in everyday life again.  You will look out at the people you meet with anticipation of new relationships and friendships.  You will start to care about how you look again when you go out to the store, even if it’s only the grocery store.  You will emerge from your cave of not caring because it’s all too hard and you’ve been wounded.  You will be like the Phoenix Rising.

The time will come when smiles are more frequent than tears.  When angst gives way to inspiration.  When loneliness isn’t a companion, but alone time is cherished.  When you begin to think about you and choose what you want to do instead of thinking of him.

Allow time to heal your heart.  Do not hold onto what could have been or the man whom you don’t recognize now.  He’s not there.  You are here.  Be you!  Be beautiful, independent YOU!

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6 Responses to After The Divorce

  1. BeowulfSabrina says:

    I’m not QUITE there yet, but have been working with therapist to change my neural pathways so now I can say that I’m grateful for his actions that have opened up a new beautiful life and future joys; but because of his rage and financial harm in divorce court, I can honestly say that at the present time, there is no way I would want to be friends with someone who is still causing pain and damage. If he acted with integrity in this process, that would be a different story, though.


    • janieleeds says:

      Time heals Sabrina. I know it sounds trite, but it’s true. With time, it will not matter about his rage for that will only be his to own and not yours to fret on. Once the divorce is final and all is settled, you will be able to embrace the gift in divorce, even though you are having a hard time now. It takes time to transition and when it’s all through, you will blossom as you are supposed to blossom! I am excited for that part of the journey for you! xo


  2. Great post. Great advice. Just great!


  3. Mischenko says:

    Such a beautiful post. Time does heal. I wish you all the best too. 🙂 ❤


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