Hi guys! It’s Janie here and I have a question for you. I hope you’ll answer because this is bugging me. I’m not mad about it. I’m simply curious because we divorced women have been talking about this lately. Since we can’t ask our EXes the question, I’m putting it out to you.
Honesty appreciated. We aren’t angry first wives. We’re simply curious.
How is it that many of you start new relationships soon after divorce? I mean, I’m happy that my EX has found someone new. Really. I’m not just saying that because I’m trying to be all new agey. Nope. I have no desire to be back with him and I truly wish him well. I’m over him and not in a mean way. It just is what it is and I’m finally fine with it. But it amazes me how many divorced women’s Exes soon after the divorce or when they are separated, begin dating again full tilt.
And I’m not thinking about the mourning of a marriage fallen apart side of it. Although I felt like I had to mourn the 20+ year marriage that broke up. I mourned and I healed. I’m ready to date as our my divorced friends. But we aren’t doing online dating so there’s a small pool in which to dip our toes. With the coming of the Mom-time off weekend, we’d love some advice.
Because the EXes we know are dating women who may or may not be divorced. So I’d love to know how you are meeting them as I’d like to meet a nice man too.
Are you hanging out in bars? Are you trolling the grocery store? Are you doing online dating and which apps are you using? Are you getting referrals from friends? Getting set up on blind dates? Using a matchmaker?
I have single friends who use Tinder and OKCupid as well as Match. It seems like it’s a serial one date stop and shop which I’m not into myself. But they continue to use it with first dates, but few follow ups. Heck, maybe it’s my friends! LOL
So please, tell me, how did you start dating after divorce?
Got any tips for me?