I had an interesting conversation with someone the other day on the phone. It was a friend of a friend who, because of his career, was able to answer some pertinent questions for me.
We only talked for about an hour, but in that time, he answered my questions honestly and put me at ease about my decisions in regards to my kids. Then we shared a little bit about our own lives and it was wonderful.
You know why? Because it gave me back the faith that there are men out there who are divorced and who seem to treat their ex-wives with kindness, who don’t bad-mouth their baby mamas and who choose to give back to the community and to others who are less fortunate in order to bring them opportunities that they might not have had to chance to experience. That’s what this guy does.
WOW!!! Eye-opener! It gave me such a smile when I got off the phone with him!
It was the first time in such a long time that I laughed and enjoyed the camaraderie of divorce with a man. I don’t know his age (looks younger than me) and who knows if the charming man who talked with me on the phone was really him or if it was just a guy being a guy. I’m sorry, did I say that? I’m so used or being an open book, however I’m not too naive to think that others can play one, but aren’t really in person. I mean no disrespect to him or to men in general, but after the fiasco of the lies during the marriage/divorce, I’m wary.
Yes, girls. I looked him up and he’s a handsome man! My friends keep telling me that I should invite him out for coffee to thank him for his help and advice, but that’s so out of my comfort zone. Perhaps I’m mistaken, but I have believed that men like to be the hunters and initiate. Ok, I know, it’s not a date. It’s not. It would simply be me thanking him for his time. But he’s cute so I’m nervous.
Of course, my friends are saying that even if he were an old man, I would have wanted to have done something nice for him for taking the time to talk with me. That’s true. But asking to treat him to a cup of coffee seems date-like.
Suggestions? Advice? Want to share your experiences? PLEASE????