These days I’m focused more on my kids than anything else. Being a single, divorced parent does that to us I think, especially when your former other half has checked out. Not laser focused mind you, just keeping the kids in my sights and listening to them. I allow them to make their own decisions as I’ve never been one of those helicopter mommas anyway. But I am here as support for them. I’m here to advise them as best I can. I’m here to listen with an open heart as they share their thoughts. And I’m always here for a hug and a kiss and if wanted/needed a little nestling in the safe cocoon of Mom’s arms.
Isn’t that what parenting is all about?
Letting go and yet, remaining focused?
I have loved every year that my kids have been here and each year, it continues to get better! I love that they are older now and brinking on adulthood. Our relationship changed a lot when their dad left. We’ve had long discussions about people and how to heal after change. We’ve become closer for which I’m grateful. Yet they still have a relationship with their dad for which I’m grateful. It’s just not where they want it to be nor is it how I see it could be either. But that’s not my business anymore unless it affects them more than it already does.
Soon I will need to focus more on myself and I’m doing that slowly. It’s a strange place to be in. I’m teetering on the precipice of starting over, although the starting over phase is already here and has been for awhile. I’m just a slow starter. I’m focusing on reading, healing, writing and deciding what I want to do with my life. The sheer freedom of not having someone always questioning everything has been a blessing in the divorce. Being able to focus on my own self has been a new category of thinking for me. Truthfully, I’m enjoying it!
Focus on the good. That’s my motto, although I sometimes slip in my blog. But it’s embracing the changes and being authentically me as life goes on that is my theme and my journey. I hope you have a great day!