Tom Petty recently passed away and one of my favorite songs he played with Stevie Nicks is this one. I like the lyrics, especially the lines below.
It’s hard to think about what you’ve wanted
It’s hard to think about what you’ve lost
This doesn’t have to be the big get even
This doesn’t have to be anything at all.
Because honestly, divorce is hard enough without the big get even. I’ve asked myself a hundred times why we just can’t do divorce right, be kind and separate easily without meanness. But little hurts get in the way and the stories we tell ourselves which aren’t always even true, color our vision and paint our spouse as the bad guy.
Like yesterday’s post, I think it’s all about forgiveness. Read my blog a bit and you will find that I write about forgiveness often. Forgive myself, forgive him, forgive the situation. It takes a lot to forgive because we can feel not enough and that leads to pushing back on our STBX (soon-to-be-ex). Or the opposite happens and it’s our spouse who reacts that way.
My advice to you if you’re going through a divorce – Stop Dragging Your Heart Around. Cut the etheric cords to your spouse. Send kindness and forgiveness to both your heart and his. Start thinking about what you want and go for it!
If you feel like singing (and I often do), here’s the song. Rest in Peace Tom Petty.