Dear Divorced Parents,
Advice needed. Help wanted in co-parenting please.
I’m trying to be all zen about the divorced co-parenting situation with my Ex. But honestly, I have to say that it’s surreal to me that there’s been no response from him in over 12 hours for the text I sent. There’s been no communication from him to our child either.
I texted him that our son had a minor accident yesterday. I was brief because I know my Ex is busy. I kept it simple – telling my Ex that our kid was fine, but that he’d had a minor accident with the car.
CRICKETS….nothing, nada, no response.
Not even a text or call to our son! What is he thinking? Or better question, Why isn’t he responding? And what am I to do next?
Our son is fine which is all that counts in this crazy world. Sure, he was upset and I calmed him. Frightened, worried and embarrassed, we worked through the all the emotions until he was calm and able to see the big picture. In true Mom fashion, I didn’t flip out. I held his trembling body while he sobbed and I wished for a moment that he was little so I could cuddle him in my lap again. Instead, I stood there in the parking lot, wrapped my arms around his waist, as tears wracked his body against mine, bending his head down onto my shoulder. (And yes, the shoulder of my shirt was wet when he was done). But, did I mind? No, not one bit. I was ever grateful that he was ok, nobody was hurt and that I was able to get to him quickly.
I’m grateful that I’m home to our kids. I am grateful that they know that when they call, I answer and we are connected. I am happy that I can be here for them, although I am so not that helicopter mom type. But I’m here when needed, supportive, loving and the disciplinarian. But above all, they know I love them and they can count on me.
So how do I handle my kid’s disappointment that his dad hasn’t reached out at all to him? Is there anything I can say to ease the pain? Or is it the lesson my kid has to experience as the relationship with his dad strains even more?
It’s so hard to co-parent with a man who lives in the nothing box. Any advice??