You Can’t Protect Yourself From Heartache


You can’t protect yourself from heartache.  It’s just not possible for most of us.  We can try to do everything right.  We can love with our whole hearts.  We can dedicate our days and nights to making our special partner/spouse happy.  We can be all to everyone around us.  We can try to the best of our ability and still fail.

Heartache is terrifying, debilitating and hard to manage when you’re suddenly left single after a relationship, no matter how long it has been a relationship nor what type (meaning dating/marriage).  It still hurts and picking up the pieces of a broken heart and healing is tough.  Rearranging the pieces of your heart into something new that’s healed and maybe always missing that piece of your heart that you gave away and can’t get back, makes it even harder, especially if you have kids together.

That’s the heartache.

Does it ever go away?  For me, the ache lessened with time and healing, but there will always be a piece of me that is tied to the EX who was once very special in my life.  But the good news is we can move on and go on with our lives to find love again.  It just takes time.  Oh, without a doubt, it takes time.

It reminds me of Bonnie Raitt’s song, It’s A Heartache.  So here it is…sing along with me and heal your heart.  Sometimes we just have to mourn and then move ahead slowly.


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13 Responses to You Can’t Protect Yourself From Heartache

  1. Mischenko says:

    Beautiful post, Janie. I have to agree with you too. I do love this song. ❤ Hugs


  2. TJ Fox says:

    Maybe it was just me and the relationship that I had with my ex, but that heartache did go away. Granted, I was younger and we were only together for 4 years, but we had a child and a life together. Maybe part of it too is that I was the one to choose to walk away. Or that he was such an utter ass in the years that followed there really wasn’t much to be heartbroken over when it was all said and done. All I know is that when I look back now, I just feel relief that I stepped out of it and opened the door to what was to come because what I ended up with is not really even comparable.

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    • janieleeds says:

      I agree with you! Maybe it is easier to be the one who leaves and that gives you power in a sense. I am healing well after 20+ years of marriage because I’m seeing who the man I once knew is no longer the one that is presented and that makes it a heck of a lot easier for me. Thanks TJ. I’m glad the heartache went away and you have peace and love in your life! I’m so happy for you! ♥ You’re my inspiration!

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  3. When I see my ex now I think you were at the birth of our children, we were together from being 17 to 47, 30 years and now you are a complete stranger. I certainly regret all the mourning I did 😬😉🌹 onwards and upwards

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  4. Personally, I don’t think we ever get over heartache. I think it just lingers and we just get on with life.


  5. I just walked away from a man I love with everything I have, and although this is not my first broken heart, healing seems impossible. I have a constant ache in my chest and a lump in my throat. Feeling forgettable to someone that I love is beyond hurtful.
    Best wishes to you. Even if it feels like it, you are not alone in your pain.


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