The Mistletoe Promise

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Ok, I confess…I watch the Hallmark channel during the Christmas season.  I know it’s cheesy.  Believe me, I do!  But there’s something warm and magical about the movies they endlessly play, especially now.

You know that it’s a boy meets girl, they fall in love and most likely, live happily ever after after a few bumps in the road.  There’s something easy about watching those shows, even though there’s something annoying as hell about them too.  The same actors is one, the sometimes bad acting is another, but the hope that you may find someone by bumping into them synchronistically keeps the fantasy of finding someone special alive in me.  I’ve told you before, I’m a hopeful romantic.  But I’ve seen behind the curtain and witnessed the great wizard, so I am also based in reality.

I think it’s the simple romance that keeps me watching them.  Not that I constantly watch them because sometimes, it’s just too contrived, even for me.  But like last night, the kid and I had dinner and then he left to be with his Dad for the weekend.  It was quiet in the house and I just needed something to keep my mind off of the unplanned lone weekend ahead.

The Mistletoe Promise came on which is a repeat from last year’s line up.  Oh gosh, I knew it was a repeat because I’ve seen it before, how pathetic is that!  But I sat and watched it anyway.  Because it’s a nice story.  A little contrived and goofy, but still.  It’s nice how 2 strangers can work for a common goal and actually heal each other’s wounds and find love all while experiencing Christmas.

You see, I love Christmas.  Even after all the crap I’ve dealt with, I still believe in the magic of Christmas.  This will be my first official divorced Christmas that I have been dreading, but instead, I’m changing my tune.  I’ve accepted a few invites which normally I would have shied away from, being a plus one only.  But if I don’t get out there and enjoy the holiday season, then it’s my fault, especially when the invites have been extended.  Being that my only other option is to sit home and watch Hallmark while nibbling on smart pop popcorn (which isn’t helping my waistline), I’m trying to move out of my comfort zone.  And it’s hard.

But I keep thinking of my friends who have never been married and are usually the plus one, who move through the social season with the grace of gazelles.  I can do this.   I know I can.  I just have to psyche myself up for it.  But it’s hard.  Maybe you understand and maybe you don’t.

But if you’ve got any advice, I’m all ears so please share.

 

 

 

 

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23 Responses to The Mistletoe Promise

  1. L. Rorschach says:

    Oh man, I remember my first “real” post-separation Christmas (real as in the first one where we lived apart). The times I didn’t have my kids was HARD. And the financial stress was overwhelming.

    My tip: Buy yourself at least a couple gifts, even if small, and gift-wrap them. I know that’s not what Christmas is about… but it helps it feel a little less empty. Make one of the gifts something you really, really want so you’re excited to open it. 🙂

    (I’m a hopeless romantic, too, and find those Hallmark-type shows really appealing as well. Like you, I’m fascinated by the idea that one day life can dramatically change due to meeting a significant love.)

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    • janieleeds says:

      Thank you for your great ideas! Last year I gave the kids some money and asked them to go out to get me a gift certificate for getting my nails done (a treat for me) and asked them to wrap it too. I also gave them money for each other and asked them to surprise the other person with a gift. No surprise though because they put their money together and bought themselves some games to play together! LOL But that was bonding too. 🙂
      Oh yes, the hopeful romantic thought of one day, one moment can be significant and change our lives. Yes, if it’s change for the better, then sign me up! LOL ♥

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      • L. Rorschach says:

        Well, that didn’t work out the way you planned! Hahahaha

        My ex and I have agreed to give the kids $10 each to buy a gift for the other parent. ($20 is all my budget can afford.) It’s really cute seeing what they come up with on such a small budget! Last year my son bought his dad a six-pack of soda, and my daughter bought him a card game. LOL

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      • janieleeds says:

        What great ideas for the kids! I love that because they learn to budget and to shop on that budget, yet to think outside the box and be creative with their gifting!
        I used to give them money for their dad, but no more. And now that we’re on a strict budget, this year will be tight but we’ll make it work out well. Because the gift of family is priceless! I can survive on their love! 🙂

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      • L. Rorschach says:

        No point in doing it for the ex if he’s not going to participate as well, and that sucks. I’m sorry.

        I give my kids the money for their dad’s gifts and take them shopping to buy it. Or they tell me what they want to buy him within the price range and I buy it. LOL

        My grandma used to have a contest every Christmas where she’d give all the grandkids $20 as their gift from her. But the contest was whoever bought the best gift would get a prize from her. I won the contest one year because I bought a little black dress on deep clearance to wear on New Year’s Eve. I think it was $17 or something like that.

        My prize was a flower bulb kit. 🙂

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      • janieleeds says:

        What a cool tradition from your grandma! Wow – great bargain dress! I bet you loved it and enjoyed wearing it! Did you plant the flower bulb kit? What a lovely gift that keeps bringing joy to the planter! 🙂

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      • L. Rorschach says:

        Sorry, hit send too soon! Maybe you could do a twist on this with your kids, offering a small prize to whoever scores the best deal with the amount of money you give them. The money can be used on a gift for themselves or for you. 🙂

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      • janieleeds says:

        Love that idea! Thank you!! That’s awesome! They will love it!

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  2. TJ Fox says:

    If you really don’t want to go, then don’t force it because all that will do is compound the negative feelings. BUT… if you think you might enjoy it and have a little fun, then absolutely, push yourself to go. DO, absolutely do, find things that will increase all those warm fuzzy feelings about the holidays. Find some fun things that you will enjoy (movie – either at home or out, decorating, looking at Christmas lights, game night with the kids, ice skating, whatever), and do some alone and do some with the kids. The whole point is to find things that will add some joy to your life, not stress.

    One of our favorite holiday traditions is to go out a few weeks before Christmas to look at holiday lights. We make a whole night of it, thermoses of hot chocolate or coffee, the kids in PJs with blankets and a few snacks, Christmas music in the background with the occasional sing along going (often with our own made up lyrics that have us in stitches by the time the song is over) and we drive around for several hours to a couple of places we know really go all out for the season. My kids STILL love doing this and ask when we are going as soon as our decorations are up, even though they are in their teens. It is a lot of fun, which is the whole point.

    It is never too late to start new traditions. A lot changed for us last year and I was really worried it would throw a wet blanket over the holidays, but because we all focused on doing things that we really wanted to do, it ended up being one of the best we’ve ever had even if there were a whole lot fewer people involved.

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    • janieleeds says:

      I can imagine how hard it is for you at the holiday season with all you’ve experienced lately. Thanks for your caring suggestions and kindness. I hope that the lights are twinkling brightly this year for all of you and I may even have to copy your holiday light tradition! Thanks for the great idea! ♥

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    • janieleeds says:

      You are right. I will go if I am feeling good about it. If not, then home I’ll be! 🙂 Thanks for the permission! I needed it! 🙂 LOL

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  3. I’m just the same, you can’t beat a wonderful Christmas film 💞💕💞

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  4. bone&silver says:

    Here’s a tip from leftfield: volunteer at a soup kitchen or drop in centre. I’ve done it a few times, just for a couple of hours, and oh boy will you be grateful for your life, newly-divorced or not! Then go hang out with friends, and practise focussing on how blessed you are, despite everything ❤

    And yes, I can be a sucker for those corny films, they're just so easy… G

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  5. You’re going to be fine. You’re not defined by whether or not you are coupled up. You know you are a strong, confident, intelligent person who can handle whatever life throws at you. Hold your head up high and just have fun.

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  6. Mischenko says:

    First, I love this book! I read a bunch of his books and some are a little cheesy, but good. I’ve not seen the show though.

    I hope you can enjoy this Christmas and head out for some fun. Christmas is my favorite time of year, but it’s a sad time for me too because of the people that I miss. Sitting in front of the TV watching Christmas movies is a favorite past time and therapeutic IMO. Do that if you want to. Do what makes you happy and what makes you feel good. That’s my opinion. I have you in my thoughts. Xoxo- Many Hugs 🤗💗😘

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    • janieleeds says:

      Thanks Mischenko. I adore Christmas too and hope yours is filled with love, happiness and many lovely memories. I will keep you in my thoughts as well. I think we all have to traverse the holidays with all the gusto we can muster and just take it one step at a time. The movie is cute. Let me know if you get a chance to see it. I can’t remember if I read the book so I’d love to know if the movie is like the book! 🙂 ♥ 🙂

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  7. Victoria says:

    Being Hallmark Christmas movies addict myself, so I’m 100% argee with everything you said)

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  8. snglegrl says:

    I love that you have found some fun in these cheesy, but cheery Holiday movies. The Mistletoe Promise is one of my favorites I must admit. I am a fan of the lead actress, Jamie King. I hope she is in more movies this year! I look forward to reading more of your posts! Thank you for your genuine and open tone!

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    • janieleeds says:

      I love that you like Hallmark too! The Mistletoe Promise is one of my favs too!! I like the actress Lacey Chabert? too. Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to comment! I’m going to hop over to your blog now too! Glad we’ve connected! 🙂 Have a great week!

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