I was invited out last night to meet a bunch of Moms that I was close with years ago when our kids were on the same sports team. We were supposed to meet for drinks and apps at a place in town. While I agreed to go for one drink, after the day I had yesterday (ups and downs), I wasn’t in the mood.
But then my friend Coco came to the rescue as she PUSHED me to go. I mean pushed – as in WHY aren’t you going? Why do you put yourself last? Why can’t you go for one drink and leave because you have to get home to the kids? Who said you can’t go? YOU! So, you can tell yourself you can go then!
I have to tell you I fought Coco with every excuse in the book. And she took every one of my excuses and turned them around in a formidable way. She wouldn’t take my no for an answer. She was relentless. And so I went…And it was good.
Sometimes, I’d rather hide in my cocoon at home than to make myself get dressed up to go out. Since the separation and divorce, it’s more comfortable at home for me, but I’ve been home for a long time now. Things aren’t changing for me sitting at home. Here I was invited out, but was going to bail at the last minute because they’re all married and I’m not. They knew my Ex and they go out all together with their husbands often as a group. I felt like I was going to be uncomfortable because of that. Funny how we get stuck in our own beliefs and limit ourselves, isn’t it?
It was a perfectly happy night reconnecting with these friends! I’m so glad I didn’t miss out. Sometimes we just need a friend to give us the extra push, don’t you think? Thanks Coco!
So tonight, I’m pushing myself to go to dinner with a few girlfriends again. These are a divorced, married and never married motley group of all different ages. While I don’t know some of them well, there’s one that I do, so we are carpooling together. I’m the driver, so I’ll have a wine at dinner only, but it should be fun.
Wow! How’s that for a busy weekend says the girl who never goes out? I’ve had a few other invites recently for the next month that I have agreed to, so I think the Universe is making me expand my horizons. Friends from different times in my life are calling and texting to get together. Maybe it’s time to break out of my shell and see the world again.
I’ll let you know how it goes! Until then, I have to find something to wear! You know how it is, don’t you? My dilemma is always what fits, what looks good, how dressed up to get and so on and so forth. It should probably take me 3 outfits to try on before I find one that makes me feel good. Such is the life of a 50 year old divorcée! LOL