Yup, I’m starting off Monday with a double whopper of potentially explosive words – Thanksgiving and Family. Maybe you don’t find them to be like mine fields, but they have the potential in my life to be loaded. How about you?
You see, now that I’m divorced, there’s that whole holiday switcheroo and Thanksgiving is the tip of the holiday season where the kids have to straddle mom and dad and our separate families. This year, I get the kids for Thanksgiving Day itself (last year he did) and he gets them on Friday for a Thanksgiving meal with his family. Unfortunately, this makes the kids who aren’t big fans of turkey, stuffing etc, have to eat 2 big meals of foods they don’t particularly enjoy, especially two days in a row. Talk about feeling guilty as a Mom! But such is life and there’s not a lot I can do about it. Last year, when he had Thanksgiving Day with his family and the kids, on Friday, when it was my turn, we went to a movie and then to Five Guys for burgers afterwards for our big Thanksgiving holiday meal. They were grateful and told me so because the thought of two turkey meals in succession was too much for them. I hope they remember that, because to me, it’s all about putting the kids first. Frankly, I think it’s the kids who get punished in a divorce sometimes, don’t you think?
I’m not a huge Thanksgiving fan myself, so I understand. On Thanksgiving itself last year, I went alone to my brother’s house. It was really awkward for me and I didn’t like it at all. We are going back there this year and it will be better because my kids will be there to hang out with their cousins. Last year, being just me and his family was awful. I just felt like the loser Aunt who’s divorced and alone. I think I would have rather stayed home by myself honestly. I mean, it was nice that they invited me, but I was uncomfortable. Maybe it’s me, but I felt like a third wheel and I was overly sensitive to the fact that I was alone and my kids weren’t with me because they were at their dad and his family’s celebration.
How do you deal with the start of the holiday season? What do you do on Thanksgiving? How do you share the holidays? Whatever you do, I hope that you feel good and that the kids are at peace too.