Onward and upwards my friends! I’ve spent the last few years alone on New Year’s Eve as my kids were always with my ex and his family at a family party to which I was excluded. I have to say, I liked having that night to myself because I used it as a reset button to herald the new year with the intentions I wanted to bring to my life. A glass of champagne, take out dinner (usually it was Chinese) and I was golden. Really.
This year will be different. Ex lied and kids are with me (he made up some story that the kids said I was having a party and they wanted to stay with me). Unbeknownst to him, the kids told me that he told them that he’d let me have them this year to be nice. But to his family, he lied and said I asked for the kids so they wouldn’t be at his family’s party. Lies, like chickens come home to roost, so I’m not worried. The truth will come out. The kids already know he’s lied because he wanted to spend the night with his girlfriend. Which by the way, they are ok with, but they are angry that he just didn’t tell the truth. But then they are seeing that he’s uncomfortable with the truth, so he lies. Sad story, but not my problem.
What are you planning for New Year’s Eve? Will you be alone? With friends and family? Do you have a party to attend? A lovely couple’s night planned? Are you going out? Staying in? Tell me all about it!
After the kids said they were staying with me, I thought about having a small open house to herald the new year and inviting the kids’ friends and families over if they wanted to stop by. But now my kids have parties to go to so I think I will be chauffeur mom that night which is tough. But it’s fine because I’m Mom and that’s what Mom’s does. But I will miss my champagne and not worrying about driving someone else around. Oh well.
This is a new year for me. First New Year’s Eve formally divorced (even though we’ve been split up for years). I’m kinda excited. Wondering what delights 2018 has in store for me?!
I remember the first New Year’s Eve I spent alone. Ex had left me months earlier and my first holiday alone yawned before me. My friend called me and talked with me for a long time that night as she was divorced and alone that night too. Having experienced a few holidays alone herself, her wise advice to me was:
It’s just another night. If you can look at it like that, you will have peace. Take the night for what it is, a night to relax, and to enjoy yourself in the peacefulness of your home. Rest and rejuvenate because the kids will be back tomorrow. Don’t let them know you were crying and having a sad night. Don’t burden them with that. Use it as a healing night. You can do this and I did. And so can you.