Nowhere Man

This song reminds me of my Ex and what I’d like to say to him someday, but I refrain.  It doesn’t matter anyway because he’s disconnected and doesn’t talk to anyone really.  But it’s interesting how the Beatles’ song came into my head this morning.  The lyrics remind me that he’s lost and although I tried desperately to help him to connect, sometimes we just have to let people be themselves.  While I’ve heard through the grapevine that he’s got a girlfriend, my kids have met her and they’re a couple, he’s missing out on communicating with his kids and that makes me sad.  It makes me sad for him and for our kids because they deserve more in their lives.  They deserve a better relationship, but that’s not for me to decide.  So I just continue on my way, doing the best I can, being supportive and staying mindful of my behavior.  It’s not easy to co-parent with a nowhere man because he is so disconnected.  But perhaps it’s easier than what my friends have going on with their ex’s who are so disgruntled that their communications border on emotional abuse.  I count my lucky stars when I hear stories of plain meanness because I’ve been cut loose and I’m free from the tyranny of co-parenting with my Ex.  I am the parent of my kids and that’s all well with me.

Does anyone else remember this song?  I know I’m showing my age with this one even though I wasn’t even born when it came out!  It reminds me of the nothing box.

He’s a real nowhere man
Sitting in his nowhere land
Making all his nowhere plans for nobody

Doesn’t have a point of view
Knows not where he’s going to
Isn’t he a bit like you and me?

Nowhere Man, please listen
You don’t know what you’re missing
Nowhere Man, the world is at your command

He’s as blind as he can be
Just sees what he wants to see
Nowhere Man can you see me at all?

Nowhere Man, don’t worry
Take your time, don’t hurry
Leave it all till somebody else lends you a hand

Doesn’t have a point of view
Knows not where he’s going to
Isn’t he a bit like you and me?

Nowhere Man, please listen
You don’t know what you’re missing
Nowhere Man, the world is at your command

He’s a real Nowhere Man
Sitting in his nowhere land
Making all his nowhere plans for nobody
Making all his nowhere plans for nobody
Making all his nowhere plans for nobody

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6 Responses to Nowhere Man

  1. I love this song. It is absolutely brilliant.

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  2. BeowulfSabrina says:

    We think the same, my friend. This is the song that describes my STBX as well. He’s an empty shell, a nowhere man sitting in his nowhere land. For SURE.

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