Valentine’s Day is here. Well, it’s almost here, but you’ve got to be ready in your head, because the stores are jam packed with Valentine stuff. Flowers, candies, cards and all of the things that put such pressure on us, especially when we’re single.
Please don’t get caught up in the hype. Don’t bemoan your single-hood. Embrace it! Do something special for you! Buy yourself some pretty flowers. Indulge in some delicious candy that is a special treat. Don’t cook dinner – get take out! Pour yourself that special glass of wine. Take time to sit and read or watch a movie that you enjoy. Take a bubble bath. Do what makes you feel good! Feel the freedom that loving yourself evokes!
Reach out to friends and family and tell them how much you care about them. Valentine’s Day is not limited to romantic love. I send a Valentine’s Day card to friends and family and that’s not romantic love. That’s just friendship, family and love, plain and simple. It’s saying, I’m taking the time to tell you that I care about you. Remember to tell your kids how much you love them. Be kind to a stranger. Smile as you go about your business tomorrow (and everyday).
Love isn’t just one day – it’s everyday! Practice loving yourself! So give yourself the gift of love if you don’t have a Valentine this year. You can do this! It’s just another day really. Don’t make it more than it is, even if your heart is broken. I understand. I have spent many Valentine Days alone after he left. This will actually be my first officially divorced Valentine’s Day and I’m not wasting one minute!
I’m going to love me tomorrow (and everyday). I’ve gotten small special gifts for each of my kids to surprise them. I am buying myself flowers today for the kitchen table. Sure, they’re daffodils that only cost $2, but they are bright and cheery and that’s what counts.
So what are you doing for Valentine’s Day?