I had a really interesting conversation on the phone with the handyman who just did some work on my house. I know he’s divorced and his kids are older than mine. He’s not my typical type, but then I don’t know what my type is anymore. I mean, I’ve always gone for the dark-haired, a little rugged yet refined men (yes, there’s such a thing!) and I’ll admit that when I look at men my age, I’m not impressed. A guy who’s 35 is more likely to turn my head which is a problem because I’m 50 and those guys aren’t looking back at me! But that’s the truth. I have to shift my thinking to my own age group because I know I don’t look like a hot 35 year old either! The weird thing is that because I was married for over two decades, I wasn’t really looking at men like that and after he left, I didn’t care about men or dating, but now I’m feeling like I want to look around a bit.
And I’ll admit…I’m having fun!
It’s like having a whole new lease on life as I’m finally at peace with my situation. It took me a long time to be ok with the whole thing. Way longer than I had ever anticipated, but I’m just happy I’m at peace finally.
So back to the handyman. He’s a nice guy and honestly if he asked me to meet him for a burger and a beer, I’d go. I don’t know if he’s even interested or if I am, but I will say that I like the way he thinks. I like that the past life experiences that he shared with me make him a deeper thinker and someone who gets that ego isn’t more important than humanity no matter what that page in the macho book of masculinity declares! I know, that was a sexist remark, but seriously. Having been with a narcissistic, ego-driven, superficial man for years who ran away from feelings, from being vulnerable and from empathy and compassion, to hear this handyman talk this way was so refreshing – and I told him that!
Because I’m looking for a man who gets it. Plain and Simple. He gets that working hard and earning a good income are important, but so is being kind, connecting with people and enjoying life’s precious moments.
I’d like to find a guy who wants to casually hang out, maybe go to a movie, grab a bite to eat and talk about life. Is that so hard? I’m not looking for anything else yet. I’m starting with small expectations to see where life takes me.
But until my first official/unofficial date…I’m just browsing!