I was married for over two decades into a family that was much like the one depicted on Everybody Loves Raymond with a mother-in-law who was actually WORSE than Marie Barone, Can you imagine? When that TV show aired, it was like watching my life as I could easily related to Debra’s problems with her MIL (mother-in-law) Marie. And it gave a lot of funny stories to my friends about my MIL as they couldn’t believe her audacity when I regaled them with true stories of the things she did and said. It became a running joke (even though I didn’t always find her antics funny). However, because I was raised to respect my elders and especially my husband’s parents, I allowed it.
Now that the divorce has been final for a year, you would think that the relationship between my former in laws and former husband would be settled. Ever hopeful, I had thought that we would be in a peaceful place. They live their lives and I go about mine without hassle. But it was not meant to be since my ex MIL crossed the line over the weekend. And my anger is to the boiling point.
She manipulated her way into my home through my children who were also taught to respect their elders. Even though she was told No thank you by my kid who was staying with his dad and grandparents over the weekend, she insisted on driving him back to my home and caught off guard, he didn’t know how to say no without being not nice.
And so she got into my home when I was away. Uninvited. Without my permission. Manipulative move on her part to see my home without me being there, without my knowledge and I am livid. Because my kid has a car so he could have driven back to our house to get whatever it was that he needed so there was no need for Grandma to drive him. In fact, he said that he was so caught off guard and even though he said no thank you, she insisted on taking a drive with him over to my home – in order to get in to see it! And it’s not like she hasn’t seem it before because I did invite her over after we first moved in before I had written the post about cutting the ties that bind me.
And, here’s the topper – my ex husband tried the same with my other kid (and yes, he has a car too) but that kid said no so firmly that my ex didn’t pursue it. Whew.
But here’s my question – WHY? Curiosity? Entitlement? Narcissistic behavior? Why do you need to come into my house? And who the hell do you think you are to get in especially when I’m not home? As far as I’m concerned she was trespassing.
They don’t invite me over to their home. I wouldn’t want to go anyway. But I am so angry. I want to call her and give her a piece of my mind and tell her off, but I think silence serves me better. I just wish they’d disappear.
What would you do?