Monthly Archives: July 2018

Be An Observer

If you’re thinking that my advice to be an observer in your life story with the narcissists is hooey, I understand.  It wasn’t until I understood what it meant that I realized what a great tool it is to healing. … Continue reading

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, inspiration | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 11 Comments

Why I Didn’t End Things First

A blogger friend asked me this question today and so here I am writing to you.  Why didn’t I end things first?  I have often asked myself this exact question and my answer has never wobbled. I loved him.  I … Continue reading

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, inspiration, love | Tagged , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

I No Longer Believe You

“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche Above is a common quote on the internet, but the real quote is: “Not that you lied to me … Continue reading

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, love | Tagged , , , , , , , , | 12 Comments

We Just Want To Be Loved

Why did you fall for the narcissist? Because you just wanted to be loved. How can you make sure you don’t make that mistake again? Love yourself. – Janie Leeds It’s not that we don’t love ourselves that we fall … Continue reading

Posted in finding happiness at 50, love | Tagged , , , , , | 2 Comments

When You Realize He’s A Narcissist

If you’ve just realized that there’s a narcissist in your life, you might feel nauseous like I did.  Your mind may be going in all directions and those pesky a-ha’s are probably stabbing you with horrifying accuracy because you’re remembering … Continue reading

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, inspiration, love, Uncategorized | Tagged , , , , , , | 16 Comments

Tips To Make Conversation Easier With A Narcissistic Ex

If you’re still tied to your former spouse who’s a narcissist, you know how hard it is to have a conversation with them.  Because even if we can clearly see that they’re narcissistic, there’s still that piece that remembers the … Continue reading

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, inspiration, love, women 50 | Tagged , , , , , , , | 12 Comments

What Time Can Do…

I’ve found that time either softens people or hardens them.  Have you found that too?  When we’ve been dealt hard experiences, I think there’s a choice to be made – let the experiences harden us or find forgiveness and move … Continue reading

Posted in divorce, finding happiness at 50, inspiration, love | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 10 Comments