Monthly Archives: August 2018

Finding The Tool Kit Of Independence

My toilet needed help as it wasn’t working properly.  The chain that connects the stopper to the metal arm had broken.  It broke awhile ago and I rigged it with a safety pin which worked great for awhile until it … Continue reading

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It’s Not Our Anniversary Anymore

The other day I realized it would have been our wedding anniversary.  Well, I guess I should call it my unniversary since I am divorced over a year now.  I wonder if my former husband even realized the date.  I … Continue reading

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Single Parenting College Bound Kids

We’re coming down to the last few days before the kids go to college.  I have been decidedly absent from nagging.  I have written a list of what needs to be packed.  I have gently reminded them of last minute … Continue reading

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Feeding Both Wolves

I don’t know if you’ve heard the story about the wise grandfather who tells his grandson about the two wolves fighting inside each of us.  While I’m shortening the parable so that I don’t bore you by being long-winded, the … Continue reading

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Disentangling Myself From The Story

I hung onto the story (which was true) in my head that stated:  he left me.  In all honesty, looking back, I can see how I clung tightly to the victim-hood status of being the one left.  I spent enormous … Continue reading

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Dirty The Nest

College bound kids dirty the nest.  At least that’s the phrase I’ve heard over and over.  Do you know what it means? Dirty the nest means they struggle for independence from you on their way out the door to college … Continue reading

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Don’t Ignore The Red Flags

Before dating after a breakup, here’s a little advice. DON’T IGNORE THE RED FLAGS! What do I mean by that?  Well, if you read yesterday’s post, you’ll see how in talking with Steve, I was feeling interested because I felt … Continue reading

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