Let me tell you a funny story. A friend gave this guy my number as a referral for work. I’ll call him Steve (even though that’s not his name). We played phone tag for a few days, but finally talked today.
As we were talking, the conversation went on a tangent. He told me he was divorced and believed the divorce was affecting his kids. So I shared that I am a divorced mom as well. All pretty superficial conversation until he starts to tell me that he’s in therapy and is working on himself because the divorce was hard. I applaud his efforts saying that it’s a good choice because we need to heal after a divorce so we don’t make the same mistakes again.
I’m liking his voice and the way he’s talking. In the back of my mind, I’m thinking hmmmm I like that this guy is so talkative and he’s connecting on what seems to be a deeper level. So yeah, I’m feeling a little interested in him. First time in awhile for me, but it was nice to connect with someone who seemed to get it.
When we hung up, I decided to google his name for the heck of it.
Eight different cheating websites popped up with his name and the town he lives in. And this is what they said: Beware lying, cheating sociopath. Cheated on faithful, cancer survivor wife with multiple women for years. He has two small kids. Don’t believe a word he says.
I began laughing and couldn’t stop. I’m grateful that I dodged a bullet by googling him. Whether it’s true or not, that stopped any interest immediately. If it is true, then good for his ex-wife in sharing the information. If it’s not, then I feel badly for him because he’s all over the internet as a serial cheater.
We’ve got to stick together and weed out the bad ones. I never even knew those types of websites existed. I just figured I’d google to see what he looked like in person. After reading that description, I don’t care anymore. Because maybe, I’m still a little bit of narc bait, even though I did google him. I’m getting smarter. Make sure you do too.