So I broke up with my hairdresser which was hard. I don’t particularly like change, but I felt like I needed to do something different. I had been with the same stylist at the same salon for over five years which is a long time, especially since I have a lot of grey hair so I’m there often! Because who wants to look over 50 if we can help it, right?
We were friends and from time to time we saw each other socially. But over the last few visits when I mentioned the hair dye product staining my scalp and walking out of the salon with the undeniable signs of just having my hair dyed, it fell on deaf ears. That bothered me. If I’m spending big bucks, I want to enjoy the feel good of just done hair instead of having to go home and wait until the dye stain goes away in another day. Or having the scrub my hairline myself. What’s the use of having a blow out when you have to go home?
Then, when I wanted to change up my color (because I’ve done it in the past), she didn’t agree. I showed her a photo of me years ago (before she was my stylist) saying I wanted to return to this and I suggested highlights to cover the greys (because that’s what I used to do). Instead, she gave me balayage which didn’t have the same effect I was looking for. So a friend nudged me to try a new salon to see if I could achieve the look I was going for but not getting.
And guess what? I’m now rocking blonde instead of the dull brunette I’d been and I’m loving the new look! I feel so much happier! Even better, I’m spending less money to hide the greys without the tell-tale dyed scalp! I feel like a new woman!
But then my original stylist texted me asking where I’d been and I felt guilty. Have you ever had that sinking feeling? Like you have to tell them and you don’t want to? I didn’t know how to tell her because I was afraid she’d take it badly. And she did. While I was honest and kind, she’s hurt and I understand.
But on the other hand, at this age, I should get what I want…and if it’s not working for me, then I have to get out of my comfort zone and just say No thank you in the kindest way possible. It’s kinda like when I got a new trainer at the gym!
It still wasn’t easy and it’s left our friendship unfortunately in limbo. It’s hard to break up with a longtime stylist who’s also someone you see occasionally out of the salon. Heck, it’s hard to break up in any relationship. While I’m nervous about how she’ll be the next time we see each other, I have to remind myself that I’m being Authentically Janie and part of that is Embracing Life’s Changes! But honestly, it still feels yucky even though it feels good to have a new hairdo…
Have you ever had to break up with a stylist?