Excellent Advice For All Divorced Parents

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“Your children have come into this world because of the two of you.  Perhaps you two made lousy choices as to whom you decided to be the other parent.  If so, that is your problem and your fault.

No matter what you think of the other party – or what your family thinks of the other party – these children are one-half of each of you.  Remember that, because every time you tell your child what an ‘idiot’ his father is, or what a ‘fool’ his mother is, or how bad the absent parent is, or what terrible things that person has done, you are telling the child half of him is bad.

That is an unforgivable thing to do to a child.  That is not love.  That is possession.  If you do that to your children, you will destroy them as surely as if you had cut them into pieces, because that is what you are doing to their emotions.

I sincerely hope that you do not do that to your children.  Think more about your children and less about yourselves, and make yours a selfless kind of love, not foolish or selfish, as your children will suffer.”

By Judge Michael Haas, 2001 Minnesota

I found this article recently and just wanted to share it with you because I feel the same way.  Awhile back, I wrote about it here and here and here in case you’ve missed them.  I slipped up here when I let my emotions get the best of me.  Because none of us are perfect as you know, right?  But keep in mind the sage advice above from Judge Haas.  Rise above and be the example for your kids.  You’ll never go wrong with that.


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4 Responses to Excellent Advice For All Divorced Parents

  1. Dwight says:

    Great advice. ❤️ never fails.


  2. It’s not easy though hey? I find that I often talk about their father to my children in mostly generous terms, but every now and then he annoys the crap out of me and I let something slip…I really need to try harder not to let what is in my mind get blurted out.


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