Managing Expectations Vs. Reality Single Mom Style

It’s Mother’s Day weekend and I’m engaging what I’ve learned in order to survive it.  Managing expectations vs reality.  Because my rose-colored glasses expectations would be the boundless adoration of my kids, a meal out without me cooking or cleaning up (along with a glass of wine and a good steak) and some quality bonding time with the kids after having opened beautiful cards full of love and gratitude for all the sacrifices I’ve made throughout their lives.  Yes, I live in my fantasy world sometimes…and I like it there.

But it doesn’t help me when the reality is quite the opposite.  Single Mom of 2 college kids who are still in the thick of exams means the full adoration party isn’t going to happen.  I couldn’t help myself and I did let it ‘slip’ that it’s Mother’s Day weekend in case they didn’t know.  Now I have to lay off and allow whatever is going to happen to happen.

I’m keeping my options open, but I’m also not going to sit on the couch alone in a pity party.  While most of my friends will be celebrating with their families, I’ve got a tentative date to Starbucks drive thru for a mocha frappuccino and a slice of the lemon pound cake which is a favorite pick me up treat.  Then if the weather’s nice, I’ll take a drive and maybe go to a farmer’s market nearby so I can pick up some flowers for myself.  I am pretty simple in my needs/wants and some peonies would do nicely.

What about you?  What are you planning for Mother’s Day weekend?

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9 Responses to Managing Expectations Vs. Reality Single Mom Style

  1. Sending you lots of love for Mother’s Day and every day. I’ll be packing on MDay, leaving the following day to have a nice long visit with my angel boys.


  2. TJ Fox says:

    Mother’s Day weekend always means crazy because it is always the weekend for dance pictures for BG. Thankfully, the last two years has meant she only has pictures on Saturday, so my Sunday is open. The weather looks like it is going to be dreary so we’re talking about staying in and watching a movie. I’ll probably cook, but only because I cannot stand trying to eat out on that day and I’m not really in the mood for pancakes (Hubby’s specialty). But I actually enjoy cooking most of the time, so it isn’t a big deal.

    Have a good weekend, no matter what your kids decide to do or not. Every mom deserves to at least treat herself for not giving in to the urge to strangle her kids at least once. We love them, but they sure can drive us insane faster than just about any other being on the planet.


    • janieleeds says:

      I couldn’t agree more TJ! I hope you have a lovely Mother’s Day too! Enjoy relaxing at home with your family….I will get take out b/c I’d prefer not to cook on my day lol. But I am glad you enjoy cooking so it’s not necesarrily a chore but something lovely.

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  3. LA says:

    Going to brunch with my parents and my husband and daughter. But yeah…this might be the last time my daughter is around for Mother’s Day….


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