Thank you for reading yesterday’s post and thank you to all who took the time to comment and to share your experiences. I can’t tell you how much better I feel after reading all that you wrote. When I felt your support and read your wisdom, I felt like I wasn’t so alone in this situation.
Because I have to ask myself the question –
Do I know what’s right for my kid? At 19 years old, does he have a say in the trajectory of his life while he’s living under my roof with me paying for everything? Am I obtuse in my thinking that to finish college in a timely manner is the only way to go? Because now he’s failed one full semester so he’s already behind his friends/peers. What I thought would keep him studying was that he didn’t want to fall behind. That he would want to celebrate life’s accomplishments at the same time as his friends. But when I realize that he’s lost many friends because they went away to school and because he wasn’t involved in the community college, his friend group has diminished. So whereas that would be important to me, finish college on time, it’s not such a priority for him. Or maybe that’s just my thinking about what he’s thinking…
The right balance of letting go and being there to be supportive and not smothering is the key I think. I’m so glad he has an appointment with his therapist this coming week. And I have one with mine which will help me.
Be thankful if you have adult kids who aren’t rocking your/their boat. Especially today because I’m still reeling from it all. Thanks for your support, caring and kindness. Happy Saturday to all.