I’m already dreading Thanksgiving. There, I said it. I’m not a huge fan of turkey anyway, but now there’s so much wrapped into the holiday that I’m throwing up my hands in surrender. Here’s the situation….
This year, I have my kids for Thanksgiving and the ex has them on Friday. Problem is that ex’s narcissistic, manipulative (remember Marie Barone?) mom insists that my kids (and everyone else) have to have a full Thanksgiving meal at her house on Friday. Not a problem for me. But my kids aren’t fans of turkey either so now they don’t want a Thanksgiving meal two days in a row. And nobody will tell ex’s mother the word ‘no’ – not one family member will do it so they’re all having two days of Thanksgiving to keep her quiet! LOL
My brother’s family invited us for Thanksgiving this year, but my kids don’t want to go there because his wife serves a cold meal every time and their kids fight when we’re there. Two years ago when my kids were with me for Thanksgiving Day, my brother’s kids had a huge brawl while we were there and my kids were traumatized (as was I).
So, I’m starting a new tradition. I declined my brother’s invite which didn’t go over well since it’s only us as ‘family’ anymore and instead I’m making a new tradition. I got an artificial Christmas tree and I’m making steak for dinner instead of turkey. My plan is to have a day at home the three of us (kids and me) and set up the tree and decorate for Christmas. I know it’s Thanksgiving, but I’m changing it up. Now my kids don’t have to eat turkey two days in a row and we get to hang out together. (I’m just hoping the artificial tree is good as we’ve only ever had real trees and they aren’t happy about the fake tree. But getting a real tree now is too early.)
The other reason I want to decorate the tree on Thanksgiving is because I heard that the ex’s mom wants my kids to stop by her house on Thanksgiving night to get all her Christmas decorations out of the attic for her. Why she can’t ask her own son or husband is beyond me. It’s just another manipulation. The day after Thanksgiving her tradition was to make all the grandkids decorate her tree which put a damper on our tree decorating which didn’t usually happen until the first week in December. That woman has been a pain in my life for a long time and I’m done. The power is back with me where it belongs.
However, it’s hard on my kids. They’re stuck in the middle and it makes our relationship tenuous at times because ex’s family (mom) is so demanding and my kids feel obligated. Ex’s family has more money than I do and they dangle it in front of the kids as bribes. And of course, my kids like the extra cash.
What’s a mom to do?