Singles Question: How Do You Feel About Going To A Bar Alone?

I’ve never gone out to a bar alone.  I’ve arrived alone to meet friends, but I’ve never specifically gone to sit at the bar alone.

I’ve eaten lunch alone in a restaurant before, but I’ve never had dinner out alone.  I’d rather get take out for dinner and eat home than to eat alone out in public.

I’ve never been to the movies alone either.  Not that I go to the movies often anyway.  I’d rather wait to watch it on Netflix or Amazon or TV.

Come to think of it, I don’t do much alone.  Even though I’m divorced with two kids and I’m alone.  And maybe that’s the problem?  But I’m not comfortable sitting at a bar alone.  What’s the point?  In my head I’d feel like everyone was looking at me like a single loser with no friends.  And I guess it’s me because I don’t feel that way about men who I see at a bar alone or other women who may be there alone.  But me?  I’m not comfortable.  I guess my insecurity is showing now, isn’t it?  And my judgmental self too?

I have friends who sometimes go to the local restaurant/bar alone to eat a quick bite, have a glass of wine and leave.  And they always meet friendly people at the bar (not pickups but other people who strike up a conversation with them while they’re there).  I’m in awe of them.  I just wish we lived closer to I could meet my friends there!

What about you?  Do you do things alone?  How do you feel about it?  What tips can you give this 50+ single woman in case she wants to step wayyyy out of her comfort zone?

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23 Responses to Singles Question: How Do You Feel About Going To A Bar Alone?

  1. L. Rorschach says:

    I love going out solo! Restaurants and movies especially but lately I’ve been trying bars.


  2. Elaine says:

    I would find it very difficult to go out alone, it took me long enough to go to the bar when I was with friends 😉


  3. LA says:

    I do lots of things alone. I really enjoy alone time. But I admit I don’t like eating in fancy restaurants alone, or I couldn’t go to a large rock concert by myself. Otherwise anything goes


  4. TJ Fox says:

    I’m so not a do things alone kind of person. I hate even going to the grocery store alone. That said, I have a friend that does all kinds of things alone. She is always out doing stuff, movies, dinner, events, runs… I don’t think there is much she won’t do alone. Pretty sure she even travels to watch her favorite teams play, all on her own. For her, that is hugely fulfilling. For me? It would probably trigger a massive anxiety attack.


    • janieleeds says:

      I like to go to the grocery store alone – so we’re different that way, but in others we’re similar! I’m impressed by your friend by the way. Maybe I need to channel her independence! 🙂 Thanks for sharing with me TJ!

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      • TJ Fox says:

        She is a really extroverted personality anyway, but was really pushed when she lost her husband unexpectedly several years ago. A big part of her doing some of those things was a way for her to process her grief. It also ended up opening up a whole lot of doors for her and she now has a side job doing something she absolutely adores. I really admire her ability to do what she has.


      • janieleeds says:

        I admire her too!! Please let her know she’s got a fan in me! 🙂

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  5. Ainsobriety says:

    I like to eat out alone. I’m happy to go to a movie alone. I went to a concert alone recently, shinedown and papa roach and I preferred it.

    I don’t drink, so I don’t go to bars.


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