I’ve never gone out to a bar alone. I’ve arrived alone to meet friends, but I’ve never specifically gone to sit at the bar alone.
I’ve eaten lunch alone in a restaurant before, but I’ve never had dinner out alone. I’d rather get take out for dinner and eat home than to eat alone out in public.
I’ve never been to the movies alone either. Not that I go to the movies often anyway. I’d rather wait to watch it on Netflix or Amazon or TV.
Come to think of it, I don’t do much alone. Even though I’m divorced with two kids and I’m alone. And maybe that’s the problem? But I’m not comfortable sitting at a bar alone. What’s the point? In my head I’d feel like everyone was looking at me like a single loser with no friends. And I guess it’s me because I don’t feel that way about men who I see at a bar alone or other women who may be there alone. But me? I’m not comfortable. I guess my insecurity is showing now, isn’t it? And my judgmental self too?
I have friends who sometimes go to the local restaurant/bar alone to eat a quick bite, have a glass of wine and leave. And they always meet friendly people at the bar (not pickups but other people who strike up a conversation with them while they’re there). I’m in awe of them. I just wish we lived closer to I could meet my friends there!
What about you? Do you do things alone? How do you feel about it? What tips can you give this 50+ single woman in case she wants to step wayyyy out of her comfort zone?