I haven’t sold my wedding rings. They’re put away for now because I wouldn’t ever wear them again. I have thought about having them reset into something I would like, but there’s that specter of divorce and disillusionment and lies that they carry. And I believe that gems carry energy and they would carry that love and lost love within them now which isn’t healthy energy. Maybe I should try to clear that energy and use them for myself.
I don’t think I’d get a lot of money for them even though they are beautiful. And certainly, I don’t want to pass them along to the kids because of the divorce.
So I’m looking to see what you’ve done with yours. If you feel like giving me some tips or sharing your experiences, I’d appreciate it.
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Ahh I wondered when this would come up! When I first separated I obviously took off my wedding and engagement rings and thought to myself I will save these for my two daughters because they were given with love! I still have my wedding dress 27 years on in a box at the top of my wardrobe, a few months later he was out and about dating and I looked at my wedding dress and thought he doesn’t know the meaning of love and I ripped it up into little pieces 😡 I later sold my wedding and engagement ring. It was me that ended our marriage and the fact he moved on so quickly proved to me that he never really loved me in the first place. 💔
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Wow Elaine! You’re amazing! I’m sorry that you feel that he never loved you in the first place. That makes me sad. 27 years is a long time to be married…but you’re my inspiration to be in a new relationship and to be happy. I hope you did something special with the money you got from your rings…I just don’t think I can sell mine yet. I took mine off the day he told me and wore a different ring he had given me for months until we told the kids. When he moved out, I took all rings off.
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We both still have ours. I’m not sure where hers is exactly, lol, but I know I still have my band. On the other hand, I was very BRIEFLY engaged a few years ago and last year found out she sold the ring without mentioning it. It was more for money than anything since we are still friends but….still! I have to say I didn’t entirely love the idea after I found out.
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I would feel similarly if I were you Sam. I’m sorry. I don’t know if my ex still has his ring, but I have mine still.
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I sold my rings from my first marriage. I had no use for them. But I understand keeping them
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So far I’ve got mine too. But I can understand selling the ones from your first considering you’re happily remarried! Good for you!
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Mine are in my jewelry box…And my dress is in my closet in a bag.
I should probably get rid of it…
I wish I had made it into a christening gown. I might keep it in case a kid has kids…
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That’s a wonderful idea. I gave mine away to a nearby high school that was performing Our Town and needed a wedding dress for a costume. It fit the girl perfectly so I was happy to help.
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I wore someone else’s old wedding dress to the diner en blanc last year.
I thought about wearing mine, but it was too soon and I was VERY THIN when I got married….
I don’t think I could get in it again, lol
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I tried on my wedding dress before I gave it away. After two kids who were HUGE (almost each 10 lbs) my rib cage had expanded and I couldn’t zipper it up over my ribs! LOL
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Sold them and almost all the jewelry he gave me except a couple things I really like.
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That was a good idea. I hope you did something nice with the money you received.
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I had unfortunately outgrown mine after children and never got around to having them resized, so not having them on after divorce wasn’t a problem. They are in their box and my son can have them when he finds someone with whom he would like to share his life, they were a sign of commitment and love and were not taken off because of the end of those feelings, I don’t think they carry any negative energy just because their use for me is now over.
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I like the way you think about the lack of negative energy simply because their use is over. It’s a lovely mindset that I think I’ll adopt too because the rings were given with love and received with love so even though the marriage broke up, it’s simply that they aren’t useful anymore. Thanks for sharing Jenny!
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I hung onto mine for a long time, not really sure what to do with them (I had his and mine). Finally, when I had to either spend a fortune to fix my current one (I’m insanely hard on jewelry) or get something new but less expensive, we opted to to sell my old ones to the store I was getting my new one from as a credit towards the total. It didn’t amount to much, but it really felt good to let go of that last piece. And I have something beautiful to show for it.
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I like what you did because it turned it into something special. I’m not ready to sell them yet because there’s no need for it right now. Thanks for sharing TJ!
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I still have mine and don’t have any intention of ever selling it. It’s tucked away in my jewelry box for one of my kids when they’re older.
It is still my favorite piece of jewelry ever by my absolute favorite jewelry designer (Tacori). It’s gorgeous.
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I love Tacori jewelry! Good for you…someday one of your kids will enjoy the beauty! Mine are still tucked away as well.
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Hey Janie. Great question. I’ve been thinking the same damm thing🤪. It’s been sitting in a drawer for the last 4 plus years. At one point I was thinking of getting a band to represent my daughter and one to represent my son and make it as a family ring to celebrate them being in my life…but yes I get the whole bad vibes thing too. I think if I had a better relationship with the ex it could work you know like celebrating that early time of our marriage and the beautiful kids we share. It’s indeed puzzling 🤔
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I figure that I’ll wait to see what happens and maybe I’ll get a ‘sign’ that tells me what to do with it…maybe that will work for you too! 🙂
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I wonder what I’ll do with mine, still going through the divorce. I used to really enjoy wearing it. Splitting up is such a train wreck, but how do you get rid of something that reminds you about the good part of the relationship? I’m all for letting go of the negativity and moving on, it’s letting go of the good times that’s hard.
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You can keep the good times in a special place in your heart with gratitude for what they gave you. You can remember them with fondness as you go through this healing process. It is in surrendering to the split that eases healing but can be a difficult process. I wish you all the best and I’m here if you need a friend. Hold steady and find your inner strength. There’s no need to do anything with the rings until you know what feels best for you. I have kept mine for now. Big hugs to you Rainey.
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Thanks for the reply (and the hug), sounds like good advice.
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