There’s an influx of incredible proportions of ‘currently separated’ or ‘never married’ that have been reaching out to me. It’s really weird because I’m not interested in anyone who isn’t fully divorced so that’s a no for me dog. (LOL) As for the never married, I don’t have any problems with that, but I am wary. I think there’s a comfort in dating someone who’s a widower or divorced because you’d think they know what marriage or a LTR (long term relationship) is about more than someone else who’s not had that experience. Then again, maybe I’m naive, but I will give anyone a chance except someone who is ‘currently separated’ even though I like the honesty. But ‘currently separated’ to me feels like you’re looking for a little action before you finish the marriage because you don’t want to be alone.
It’s like Starbucks guy who’s hell bent on telling the world that he’s divorced even though it’s not official because he hasn’t gone in front of the judge to have it signed. I’m sorry. I’m a stickler on that because you’re still married. And you haven’t even begun to heal after your divorce. You’re just onto the next woman in your life without mending your broken heart (because in our date/therapy session, he talked about how broken-hearted he was). And I may sound mean, but you know that’s not my nature because I sat for two hours with him because I understand. I’ve been broken-hearted too. But I didn’t go running out to try to hook up with someone else before I got myself at least a little bit back together.
Am I wrong in the way I’m thinking? I don’t mind helping as a friend, but I am steering clear of fixing broken-hearted men only to be the transition woman who sets them back to rights for the next girl.
If you’re online dating, have you noticed this as well? What are your personal red flags in an online profile?