Falling Into Bed With A Stranger

Here, let me get your blood pumping today and ask you,

Have you ever fallen into bed with a stranger?


Would you ever think about falling into bed with a stranger?

Because I’ll be upfront and tell you I never have, but I wonder what it would be like.  Being married for most of my life (and now divorced), I haven’t had a lot of opportunity to meet someone who zinged me and I think that would be a requirement for sure.

Zinged – you know, made me even think of sleeping with him because of the connection I felt to him.

Zinged – the almost immediate gravitational pull to want to know how soft or hard his kisses would be or how it would feel to be held by him.

Zinged – the wondering of what’s underneath his clothing…you get it right?

I’ve been reading some other bloggers who talk about their dating experiences and while mine have been G-rated, theirs have bordered on PG – M (for Mature audiences) and have amused me because sometimes they do fall into bed with a stranger (or near stranger).  Now I’m not judging at all.  I’m just wondering how that works because I’ve never felt that way before so it’s never been an option.

And maybe I should add that I’m a Hallmark girl.  I believe in the fairy tale, stars aligned, courting, flirtation and romance of it all, but I’m finding that when I take off my rose-colored glasses, things are looking quite different at this age.  It’s not the same anymore as it was back when I was single decades ago.

My most proper upbringing would have never strayed into this unknown territory, but then again, who knew I’d be here now?  I’m sure you may think that I’m old fashioned in dating etiquette, but I am who I am.  Authentically Janie and an over 50 year old divorcée!  And I’m owning this new chapter in 2020!

So, again, I ask you…have you thought about it?

Would you do it?

Did you or someone you know do it?

And yes, I’m asking…how did it go?

Ok, I’m borrowing my blogging friend LA’s line….

Now Discuss!


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12 Responses to Falling Into Bed With A Stranger

  1. LA says:

    First of all….💗 and to your question….no….and at this stage I don’t even want to get into bed it’s someone I know….so yeah….😆


  2. bone&silver says:

    I think it’s important we challenge our assumptions and socialisation, so yes, while I have been a Hallmark/romantic girl, I have also gone to bed with someone after 1.5 hours of meeting (which was really fun & sexy but in no way a long term proposition). So yes, if you feel like it, DO IT, and stuff the upbringing! G 😉

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  3. TJ Fox says:

    I’m so not a PG person and never have been. That said, I’ve always needed at least a small bit of an emotional connection to a person before I took that step. It didn’t have to be a huge one, but at least something, meaning I had to take some time to get to know them. It is probably WAY worse now, but for entirely different reasons. I’m now a 47 year old woman that has had 3 kids, things just do not look or work the same as they did back in my more wild days. There is going to have to be a butt load of trust and comfort with a person before I would EVER even think about getting that personal. I’m insanely grateful it isn’t something I have to worry about.


    • janieleeds says:

      I’m happy for you that it isn’t something you have to worry about either TJ! And I agree, things are way different now at 50ish than it was back in our 20’s. That being said, trust is the main issue that evolves over time. At least for me as well. Thanks for sharing.

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  4. The V Pub says:

    Yes, it’s happened, but not with total strangers. Does that count? 😀


  5. It’s so complicated now (after 50). Short response is a soft “no” leaning towards a pliable “maybe” … if it’s just a quick, one time thing without anything of deeper substance or attraction beyond the shiny exoskeleton. Thanks, because now I’ll be pondering this most of the day and my answer may change. Actually, it’s changed already … 😊

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    • janieleeds says:

      Thanks Michael for answering! I love those questions that stay with you and that you wrestle with a bit…I think it highly depends on circumstances and the people involved. 🙂 There are worse things to ponder most of the day though don’t you think? 🙂

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  6. There’s another part to this question, Janie, I think: …AND did it lead anywhere. if you are comfortable and in that hot moment, then it’s up to you, but if you want to pursue a relationship, I think it’s much better to wait. (And a lot of dating experts support this idea.). There’s something to be said for, well, building up to that climax–I practice it all the time in my fiction writing!


    • janieleeds says:

      Practice makes perfect Evelyn and yes, for me, it’s a better choice to wait. I’ve never been someone who can impulsively do things like that but I love to read what others are thinking to expand my own thinking because surely there’s a whole world out there that doesn’t think like me and I’m always open to reading about it but not necessarily doing it. If that makes sense….and yes, with fiction, it’s all about the build up especially when it comes to romance…♥


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