How was it? Did you celebrate with others or were you alone? Did you celebrate with your SO (significant other) or your family? How did it go?
Well, here at Janie’s, it was quiet. I talked to a few other divorced friends and then with my kids, but that was it. No flashy meal out or flowers or cards like it used to be when I was married. Sometimes in years past I would get myself some pretty tulips to brighten my home, but I didn’t find any I really liked and that’s ok. I don’t need to force it either, you know what I mean? So all in all, it was pretty quiet. I ended up watching Letters To Juliet (again!) and then I decided to go to bed early-ish for me. 🙂 Bottom line…it was fine!
Because that’s how we have to treat these love holidays when we’re not with someone (or we’re hurting because the relationship that we were in is kaput). It’s really just another day when you think about it. It’s a Hallmark bonanza, but honestly, it’s just another day in the end. And when you think about it that way, it’s not such a big deal. Of course, unless you can’t get over it….cue the heartbreaking sadness….I want a Valentine! I miss (name her/him)! I don’t want to be alone or be an old maid (man)!
And I get that angle too. I’ve been there. But if he/she doesn’t want to be with you, then you must accept and move on. No amount of whining, crying or pity party will change it. So wallow when you must and then grab my hand. I’ll haul you out of that hole because we’ve all been there and I’m not afraid of it anymore and I’ll help you to heal.