How Was Your Valentine’s Day?

How was it?  Did you celebrate with others or were you alone?  Did you celebrate with your SO (significant other) or your family?  How did it go?

Well, here at Janie’s, it was quiet.  I talked to a few other divorced friends and then with my kids, but that was it.  No flashy meal out or flowers or cards like it used to be when I was married.  Sometimes in years past I would get myself some pretty tulips to brighten my home, but I didn’t find any I really liked and that’s ok.  I don’t need to force it either, you know what I mean?  So all in all, it was pretty quiet.  I ended up watching Letters To Juliet (again!) and then I decided to go to bed early-ish for me. 🙂  Bottom line…it was fine!

Because that’s how we have to treat these love holidays when we’re not with someone (or we’re hurting because the relationship that we were in is kaput).  It’s really just another day when you think about it.  It’s a Hallmark bonanza, but honestly, it’s just another day in the end.  And when you think about it that way, it’s not such a big deal.  Of course, unless you can’t get over it….cue the heartbreaking sadness….I want a Valentine!  I miss (name her/him)!  I don’t want to be alone or be an old maid (man)!

And I get that angle too.  I’ve been there.  But if he/she doesn’t want to be with you, then you must accept and move on.  No amount of whining, crying or pity party will change it.  So wallow when you must and then grab my hand.  I’ll haul you out of that hole because we’ve all been there and I’m not afraid of it anymore and I’ll help you to heal.

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10 Responses to How Was Your Valentine’s Day?

  1. Amen! I was thinking along these lines (perhaps a bit darker) and wrote my Valentine post about longing for lost love. I never was big on V-Dad–got some nice cards and gifts over the years, but I can take it or leave it. The other holidays, like New Years, I would find it harder to be alone. Still, the meaning is what we make it. We can decide how much significance a single calendar date has. By the way, have you heard of Galentine’s Day? Now that’s something I can get into!

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    • janieleeds says:

      I will pop on by for a visit after I comment so thanks for telling me about your post! I love the idea of Galentine’s Day too!
      I think it comes down to what significance we put on anything that either makes or breaks us. And we always have that choice.
      Happy belated Galentine’s Day to you! ♥

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  2. Dwight Hyde says:

    I got one txt message with a cute valentine image and spent the night like usual with my doggies. Oh🤔, and I ate two rows of chocolate mint cookies. What? It was only 8 and after all it was V day right? Chocolates your remember? What I didn’t do is feel sad about the past or talk negatively to myself. It was a win❤️

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    • janieleeds says:

      It sounds like a lovely Valentine’s Day to me Dwight! I actually ate a sleeve of Girl Scout mint cookies between Friday night and Saturday night! LOL Must be something in the air that felt right because for me, chocolate is always a good idea!
      Your last line made me smile so big – It was a win! That’s awesome! ♥

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  3. Ainsobriety says:

    My 16 yo son and I watched the celebrity nba game.
    It was a Good Friday night. I never really was much for valentines, except I liked dressing my daughter up for holidays in cute clothes when she was small. No anymore, lol.

    I do not feel that I’m missing anything. I truly plan to be single from now on. I am glad I was married as my kids are amazing, but I think I’m actually asexual. I might just embrace that fully.

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    • janieleeds says:

      Thanks for taking the time to write! It sounds like a lovely Valentine’s Day and I’m happy for you and your family.
      I think that embracing who you feel you are is in your best interest and allowing whatever feelings/emotions to flow and be processed. You are an amazing person. Just enjoy being you! ♥

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  4. plentyfreaks says:

    We had games night at mine, with drinks and nibbles. 3 adults. 3 kids.
    It was fun and I felt happier than any other Valentines (single or not!)
    Valentines brought 2 engagements and 2 suicides…what an awfully emotional weekend.
    At the end of the day life is about love…but not just passion and romance but proper love…family, friendship and acceptance.
    xxx

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    • janieleeds says:

      Oh my goodness! I’m sorry to hear about the deaths, but happy to hear about the engagements. What an emotional rollercoaster for you.
      I agree, at the end of the day, it is about love, pure love in all it’s magnitude.
      I’m sending you a big hug! Thank you for sharing your experience…xo

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  5. TJ Fox says:

    We had a family movie night and ate a ton of amazing finger foods. Honestly, I love spending days like that with my kids and Hubby. We say that Valentines day is more about romance, but it is about love and that can take all kinds of shapes and forms. We did some of what we love best. Spending the time together.

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    • janieleeds says:

      And that’s what it is all about TJ! Thanks for reminding us of what’s important. Sure romance has a place in it, but it’s not the be-all and end-all of Valentine’s Day because bottom line, it’s a celebration of love!

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