Romance On TV Vs. Reality

My group of friends and I were discussing how some people often feel disgruntled after Valentine’s Day because let’s be real.  Watch any movie or TV show (not only Hallmark mind you!) and there’s that zing between the couple and usually there’s some type of swoon-worthy kiss that you can obviously tell zinged her from head to toes.  And that’s what we grow up on watching and believing.  Does anyone remember The Love Boat and Fantasy Island??? And then we question why we don’t have that same experience when we’d really like it and we’re putting ourselves out there in order to find the one.

But was it true?  And is it true now?  Or is it just a fantasy and part of the TV make-believe story-line that we keep seeing because it helps us to continue to believe in love?

You know I love a good Hallmark movie.  I love a good romance novel too.  I like movies with happy endings and movies when the underdog wins.  I believe in love and I can’t imagine my life totally alone so I am willing to wait until the right one comes along.  And no, I’m not too picky or fickle.  At least I don’t think so…

But I am watching friends despair because dating is so hard these days.  I want to think it’s hard because we think it’s harder because it’s different than when we we younger.  But that’s not true.  It’s different because there’s a social media aspect thrown into the mix.  There’s texting as a way to communicate and emailing before you actually meet which hearkens back to pen pals.  But back then we weren’t anticipating romance with our pen pals from overseas that we got in the fourth grade.

Am I making any sense?  Do you feel the same way?

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8 Responses to Romance On TV Vs. Reality

  1. LA says:

    Love and relationships are never easy


  2. The V Pub says:

    It’s the phony expectations that Hollywood puts out that makes relationships difficult.

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    • janieleeds says:

      I agree with you Rob. The Cinderella stories etc only cloud the picture of reality.


    • Not just ‘Hollywood’, it’s the whole world. It’s the rose-tinted glasses we wear until our heart is broken, and then it’s the constant narrative that talks in terms of ‘happy ever after’ or ‘the one’ – as if in our long, long lives we can only ever love one person, and they are out there, we just have to find them and love will conquer all. As midlife adults, we know that simply isn’t true – but as a 20-year-old idealist, I did believe that. I totally bought into that simple love myth and that’s not such a bad thing. It led to more than two decades with a man I once loved, and two ‘lucky’ children conceived later in life, so I am grateful. But it’s only through living after this myth came crashing down, experiencing degrees of attraction, lust and love with multiple people, that it’s given me the solid foundation of all-grown-up love that I have in my life today.
      Yes TV and move romance is fake – just like sex scenes are (don’t get me started on porn), but give me the real thing any day.

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      • janieleeds says:

        I think there’s a time and place for all of it and as we mature and have these experiences we learn from them. The key is learning from the experiences and not staying so naive. But I love that you’re in a similar mindset in that we feel gratitude for the past relationship and the kids that we had from that union.
        To me, it’s a gift of learning even though it was fraught with heartbreak in the end. But now that I’m through the other side of it, I can look back with more wisdom and realize that it’s all ok.
        As for the Hollywood, TV and fake porn, ugh. I can’t even go there because I’d be writing for a long time!
        Hope you have a great week! Thanks for stopping by. I love hearing from you!


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