The time you spend trying to be good enough in someone else’s eyes: you don’t get that back, and no one else can measure your worth other than you. So stop wasting time trying to prove yourself to anyone who is committed to not seeing you for who you are. Open you eyes. See yourself. Please. See yourself.
Quote by: Stephanie Bennett-Henry
I found this quote the other day and it spoke to me. Because I had only seen myself as less than through the eyes of those who chose to put me down AND whom I allowed to put me down. Worse than that, I believed them.
Until now…and as my thoughts are unfolding and there’s no place to hide because we’re all home bound, there’s a struggle within me. Often I viewed what happened to me as a downfall of my unworthiness in my ex’s eyes. Later in hindsight, I found his choice to leave as freedom from the ties that bound me. But still, as a castaway in my own life, I didn’t know how to swim and to stay afloat without panicking. So I seesawed my way through those tender years after he left – depression, anger (towards him and sometimes towards myself), apathy, numbness, seeking answers in spirituality, researching, trying to forgive, beating myself up, putting the ex down, and all sorts of twists and turns until I thought I had found my center.
Observer-mode of looking at the big picture, writing down the pros and cons and choosing (and I mean CHOOSING) to go onward with my life because sitting in the proverbial stagnant seesawing wasn’t getting me healed. And that takes courage to choose to not stay in that place and allow the pain to swarm us everyday. And it’s hard. It takes a village of friends who have helped immensely with their wisdom from their own experiences. But it also takes me laying my life and self bare to see myself. To see me for who I am.
See yourself for who you are – all the goodness and all the maybe not so good. Be honest with your good parts and your flaws, but don’t exaggerate them. This is not about your ego. It’s about truth. It’s about authenticity. It’s about being all of you in your special form.
List the attributes and accept the pros and cons of each. Get the whole picture of you and find your comfort in accepting you for who you are. Because that’s where you start when there’s confusion. Center yourself. Ground yourself.
This is the time to do it while we’re all home. And when it feels like it’s too much, write to me. I’m here for you on this path too. Sharing is helping each other to grow. Don’t you think?