True Story: I was talking to a friend of a friend the other day. She asked me for some information that she needed and because it was Mother’s Day, I wished her a Happy Mother’s Day. The conversation went really well until I asked about her family and then it all came out.
Two weeks ago, her Mom passed from a sudden heart attack. Two weeks before that, she had a miscarriage. Two weeks before that, her father-in-law passed away from cancer. And as I listened to her weepy voice listing all of these monumental sad events, I began to choke up and silently cry with her. There were no words I could say to take away the multiple heartaches that she’s recently experienced.
Because in addition to all of the deaths, there was no time to mourn since she’s an essential worker. And she’s got a lot on her plate with her job as you can imagine as a nurse in facility where there are also Coronavirus patients that she’s helping. What amazed me that if I hadn’t asked about her family, she probably wouldn’t have shared what had happened. Because she’s someone who is always strong and supportive of all around her. That’s how she’s built. Are you the same way? Keep it on the inside and not talk about the sadness?
My point of telling these stories is simple: Listen when you ask someone how they are. We are all experiencing different levels of this storm, but we are all in the same boat. Some people won’t talk about their feelings and some, with a little bit of encouragement, will welcome a kind listening ear and a caring, understanding heart.
The more kindness and caring we share, the more healing that comes forth for the other person and for us. Always remember that we are all in this together!