Another Untold Story Of Isolation

True Story:  I was talking to a friend of a friend the other day.  She asked me for some information that she needed and because it was Mother’s Day, I wished her a Happy Mother’s Day.  The conversation went really well until I asked about her family and then it all came out.

Two weeks ago, her Mom passed from a sudden heart attack.  Two weeks before that, she had a miscarriage.  Two weeks before that, her father-in-law passed away from cancer.  And as I listened to her weepy voice listing all of these monumental sad events, I began to choke up and silently cry with her.  There were no words I could say to take away the multiple heartaches that she’s recently experienced.

Because in addition to all of the deaths, there was no time to mourn since she’s an essential worker.  And she’s got a lot on her plate with her job as you can imagine as a nurse in facility where there are also Coronavirus patients that she’s helping.  What amazed me that if I hadn’t asked about her family, she probably wouldn’t have shared what had happened.  Because she’s someone who is always strong and supportive of all around her.  That’s how she’s built.  Are you the same way?  Keep it on the inside and not talk about the sadness?

My point of telling these stories is simple:  Listen when you ask someone how they are.  We are all experiencing different levels of this storm, but we are all in the same boat.  Some people won’t talk about their feelings and some, with a little bit of encouragement, will welcome a kind listening ear and a caring, understanding heart.

The more kindness and caring we share, the more healing that comes forth for the other person and for us.  Always remember that we are all in this together!

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16 Responses to Another Untold Story Of Isolation

  1. scr4pl80 says:

    Wow, that’s a lot of grief for one person in a short time period. Thanks for sharing this story. It is important to listen. Happy Sunday to you.

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    • janieleeds says:

      Happy Sunday to you Janet. I think it helps to put things into perspective when we realize that what we may be dealing with can be much worse. And the humanity of feeling sadness for the grief someone else is experiencing is a connector.

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  2. LA says:

    It is so fortunate that she has you for a friend. We are on the same wavelength. I have a similar themed post set up for tomorrow.

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  3. Dwight Hyde says:

    So very true! I’m always just amazed by the strength and commitment of nurses. Sad she couldn’t take time off to grieve. Very glad you reached out to her😊

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    • janieleeds says:

      I was very glad that she told me and that I honored my listening skills to hear her pain. But so sad and I am sure there are many others whose pain we don’t hear about. I hope you are doing well. Glad to see you here.

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  4. bone&silver says:

    Well done for tuning in and listening a little harder. A witness to our pain can be very comforting 🙏🏼

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  5. petespringerauthor says:

    Your anecdote makes me think of several things, but especially how we never know what is going on behind someone’s exterior. Sometimes a coworker or friend may speak to us in an out of character angry or sarcastic voice, and we may wonder why they are acting so hostile toward us. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us, but it is their anger coming out for something we have no knowledge of. Maybe we do the same, raising our voices to our children over something we typically would ignore or handle much calmer under normal circumstances.

    As you remind us in this story, life goes on despite all of the struggles one may be dealing with. I remember how hard it was for me when my mom was in and out of the hospital and living in an assisted living home, suffering from dementia. One time I stayed with her until 2;00 in the morning, and I had to teach the next day. I’m sure I wasn’t as patient as I usually was with my students.

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    • janieleeds says:

      I’m sorry to hear about your Mom Pete, but you’re a really good son to have stayed with her until the wee hours of the morning because she needed you.

      I wish we would all listen a bit more with kindness in our hearts because you never know what someone is dealing with in their personal life, especially when you only know them on a professional or superficial basis. Although I will correct myself and say that sometimes even good friends will put on a happy face and not tell what’s going on. I know I’ve done that many times…because I just couldn’t talk about it.

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  6. Create Space says:

    A little kindness goes a long way and she knew she could trust you, not everybody has these qualities Janie! You were the best PPEgear she could access. X

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