I got a call from my first love yesterday. Out of the blue because I had written an email to him. You see, he gave me my first kiss and we were on again off again for years before we mutually decided that we were better off friends. And we were/are. We both married other people (and I have since divorced mine). But all is well.
It’s not unusual for us to write occasional emails. His wife knows all about them and I have suggested he let her read them so there is no mistaking anything. She’s since friended me on social media which is fine. They live overseas so it’s not like I’m likely to see either of them. And I pose zero threat to their marriage.
But there’s something about a friendship/relationship from long ago that feels good. He knew me back when I was young and we grew up in the same town. He knew my parents, my friends, my family and I knew his. Those are things that one just doesn’t have when you meet someone after college, so we enjoy keeping up with each other’s lives. It’s an easy friendship (and that’s all it is).
Yesterday he asked if I were dating. When I told him I hadn’t found anyone yet, he asked me what I was looking for in a partner now that I’d been married/divorced. When we finished the conversation, we were both laughing because he knew me so well that many of his ‘suggestions’ as to what I needed in a boyfriend could only have been suggested by someone who once was my boyfriend for many years.
Do you have a first love that you have stayed connected with?