I never liked when I heard women refer to their exes as deadbeat dads. I never thought I’d call the ex this ugly moniker, but here it is. Officially a deadbeat dad who neglects the payments ordered by the divorce court system. This is not the first time he has refused to pay. When we first divorced, he refused to pay so I had to file a motion to garnish his wages after giving him the benefit of the doubt for a month. And then he got to pay the amount in arrears back to me at a measly $50 a week for months because that’s what the system allows.
Again, another phantom month of non-payment has emerged. He got severance from his last job for a year so the payments continued thankfully. But when he got a new job and the severance year was up, he refused to pay.
Fast forward to this past month and while wage garnishment has begun again, the end of the month was short by $600. And this is in addition to the month of child support/alimony that he’s not paid at all and the months of arrears (because he paid less than he’s supposed to) that have already accumulated.
I can’t even begin to tell you how frustrated and upset I am. I’m trying not to let the stress of it take me down, but it’s hard especially when Christmas is coming. I tried to take the high road and not say anything to the kids because they don’t need that additional stress. But I caved the other night when I’d had enough of them fawning all over his new Mercedes convertible sports car and I ended up telling them how he’s not paid at all for October and been short August, September, November and now December. They needed a correction in perspective.
I don’t care if the deadbeat is driving a luxury vehicle as long as he pays what he’s lawfully required to pay on time. I don’t need those status symbols. I never did. I liked them when I had them, but I wasn’t one to need them.
I’m more about your integrity than your Mercedes. But maybe that’s just me. It would be nice to find someone with both, but that’s ok. I’m enjoying being free.