Some Tips For A New Year’s Eve Alone

What are you planning for New Year’s Eve?  Are you hanging out with your family?  Do you have zero plans and you’re dreading a night alone?  What are you doing for the new year?

Back when I was married we had a New Year’s Eve party for family and friends.  It was a lot of work and I didn’t really enjoy it because all of the responsibility was on me.  My sister-in-law took it over a few years before the ex left for which I was really grateful.  This will be my 6th New Year’s Eve I spent alone because I wasn’t invited to the ex’s family party, because our kids went because it was the tradition.

I remember that first year and I was grieving, but a friend called me that night and we stayed on the phone for hours, laughing and drinking champagne which made the time go by faster.  Since then, I’ve spent every New Year’s Eve alone and I’ve come to enjoy it.

So if you’re sad about spending New Year’s Eve alone this year, don’t worry.  Here are some things I do to pass the time.  Take what works for you and if you have other suggestions, feel free to add them in the comments.

  1. I either buy or make a special meal to eat that night.  And yes, it includes a gooey chocolate dessert.  I serve it up on my china and make it special.
  2.  I get my favorite wine or a split of champagne to eat with my dinner and dessert.
  3.  I DVR a few movies to watch that I know my kids wouldn’t want to watch so that I can take my mind off the fact that I’m alone.
  4.  I write in my journal.  While I don’t make resolutions, I do let my imagination wander to what I want in the coming year and if I feel inclined, I try to make some plans to have those ideas come to life.
  5.  I write in my planner, putting all of the birthdays in next year’s calendar.
  6.  I have a few friends who are divorced as well and we always text each other.  Sometimes we even call and chat for awhile.
  7.  I sit outside in the quiet of the night, looking up at the stars.  I talk to the Universe and ask for a year filled with love, light, healing and goodness.
  8.  I write out a list of all I am grateful for in the past year.
  9.  I sometimes even take a bubble bath or an Epsom salts bath to wash away the year before and get ready for the new year!
  10.  I wait for my kids to come home from the ex’s family party and when they come home, I am there, ready and waiting for them.  We take some time to just sit and relax and talk about everything.  I make sure that I’m not teary by the time they come home so that it’s a good start to the new year.

Do you have any special routines that bring you joy on New Year’s Eve?

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14 Responses to Some Tips For A New Year’s Eve Alone

  1. Happy New Year to you! No champs for me cos I still don’t know how to open one (really) but I’ll raise a glass of wine. I’m def trying to stay up to midnight this year!

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  2. scr4pl80 says:

    I get my planners and calendars set for the new year too. At midnight we watch the ball come down in Times Square (used to watch the New Year’s Rockin Eve with Dick Clark but now I hardly know any of the performers so just watch about 15 minutes of it). We usually have a champagne toast and if the kids aren’t home they usually call us. Sounds exciting huh? I don’t think I’ve been to any kind of New Year’s Eve party in probably 7 or 8 years! Happy New Year to you!

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  3. Ainsobriety says:

    Once I quit drinking I stopped going to New Years parties. To be honest, I never liked New Years. It’s freezing and dark and I remember many parties in my 20s wearing tiny dresses and heels and struggling to get a taxi home. My ex and I had many parties at our house over the years…many hangovers.

    Once we here both sober New Years focused on college football bowl games, world junior hockey and whatever other sports might be on tv. This will be my plan still. I love a good bowl game!

    So. Kids and I will be home and will probably ring in the New Years on Newfoundland time, and then again hourly until midnight mountain time….if I manage to stay up that late! Lol. I should make a food plan.

    I don’t have resolutions. I have my word of the year and will try to use it when I get caught in memories or resentment.

    Not sharing custody is a definite plus in divorce. I haven’t lost much…I have gained time with my two favourite people.

    Happy new year. We have done well in 2020!

    Anne

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  4. TJ Fox says:

    It has always been a family movie and game night with lots of fun goodies to munch on. It was something I’d always done growing up and Hubby and I kept it up after we got married. Now it is one of the nights our kids look forward to the most, even though they are adult/nearly adult themselves.

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    • janieleeds says:

      That’s so awesome TJ! I love that holiday tradition and the fact that it’s from your childhood and you’ve kept it up with your kids! And that they look forward to it makes it even more precious!! Enjoy!!!

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  5. Dwight Hyde says:

    I don’t…but thanks for the suggestions! I see a cheesecake in my future😀

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  6. bone&silver says:

    Your rituals sound lovely. Not sure yet what I’m going to do- usually I’m performing at a festival so it’s all taken care of, but this year we are heading for new lockdowns… think I’ll stay home and look at the sky too 😊
    My son will be partying no doubt, but maybe we’ll connect Jan 1…
    Happy New Year!

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  7. LA says:

    You can always text me….

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