What are you planning for New Year’s Eve? Are you hanging out with your family? Do you have zero plans and you’re dreading a night alone? What are you doing for the new year?
Back when I was married we had a New Year’s Eve party for family and friends. It was a lot of work and I didn’t really enjoy it because all of the responsibility was on me. My sister-in-law took it over a few years before the ex left for which I was really grateful. This will be my 6th New Year’s Eve I spent alone because I wasn’t invited to the ex’s family party, because our kids went because it was the tradition.
I remember that first year and I was grieving, but a friend called me that night and we stayed on the phone for hours, laughing and drinking champagne which made the time go by faster. Since then, I’ve spent every New Year’s Eve alone and I’ve come to enjoy it.
So if you’re sad about spending New Year’s Eve alone this year, don’t worry. Here are some things I do to pass the time. Take what works for you and if you have other suggestions, feel free to add them in the comments.
- I either buy or make a special meal to eat that night. And yes, it includes a gooey chocolate dessert. I serve it up on my china and make it special.
- I get my favorite wine or a split of champagne to eat with my dinner and dessert.
- I DVR a few movies to watch that I know my kids wouldn’t want to watch so that I can take my mind off the fact that I’m alone.
- I write in my journal. While I don’t make resolutions, I do let my imagination wander to what I want in the coming year and if I feel inclined, I try to make some plans to have those ideas come to life.
- I write in my planner, putting all of the birthdays in next year’s calendar.
- I have a few friends who are divorced as well and we always text each other. Sometimes we even call and chat for awhile.
- I sit outside in the quiet of the night, looking up at the stars. I talk to the Universe and ask for a year filled with love, light, healing and goodness.
- I write out a list of all I am grateful for in the past year.
- I sometimes even take a bubble bath or an Epsom salts bath to wash away the year before and get ready for the new year!
- I wait for my kids to come home from the ex’s family party and when they come home, I am there, ready and waiting for them. We take some time to just sit and relax and talk about everything. I make sure that I’m not teary by the time they come home so that it’s a good start to the new year.
Do you have any special routines that bring you joy on New Year’s Eve?