Don’t Go Looking For Trouble

I find it easier to stay silent when there’s trouble brewing. That’s why you find me not always posting because I need to process what’s going on and deal with it myself. While your support means so much to me, when I am wrestling with stuff, I go into a little cocoon for a bit.

But there’s trouble brewing. Unrest and people are on edge more than usual. I’ve been watching friends and extended family members argue on social media to such an extent that it’s quite frightening. And they’re outing secrets en masse, taunting those with whom they’re related. And for what? Because they’re frustrated with life.

I stay out of the fray. Quiet here in my own little world. I take care of my sons and myself. That’s it. I’m not looking for trouble. I don’t want to be in the midst of that low vibrational mess.

Am I aware that there’s turmoil? Yes. I’m not an ostrich sticking her head in the sand. But I’m also not one to engage in a word battle that isn’t mine. The offending relative is older and set in his ways. He’s posting things that are a little wacky. I’ve seen them, but I scroll on by. Not my circus. Not my monkeys. But another family member took offense and the gloves were off. It escalated on social media.

He’s written some ugly things in the past as well. I’ve seen the digs about other relatives that weren’t true. Sure, I screen-shotted them as evidence for future reference if needed. But he’s a narcissist and I don’t give my time nor energy to those people anymore.

My point is don’t go looking for trouble. You can find it from anywhere these days as it feels like it’s everywhere. But it’s a choice. Your choice to engage in it or to repeat to yourself…Not my circus. Not my monkeys.

Stay safe. Stay healthy. Stay peaceful. Don’t trouble trouble.

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13 Responses to Don’t Go Looking For Trouble

  1. Ainsobriety says:

    Good advice. Very good.


  2. Jane Sturgeon says:

    ❤ Janie Xx


  3. LA says:

    You’re so right!


  4. petespringerauthor says:

    That is quite wise, Janie. While I have strong opinions about a lot of this, I realize they are my thoughts, and others are entitled to their own. Does it drive me nuts when I see someone misspeaking or repeating some debunked conspiracy theory? Absolutely! On the other hand, most people are so set in their beliefs that all of the back and forth is a giant waste of time. Do we really change anyone’s opinions by discussing politics? What I find most troubling is the amount of namecalling and insults I read/hear (on both sides).


    • janieleeds says:

      I agree Pete that it’s the insults and name calling that make me crazier for these are grown people who are acting like children in the playground. Dare I say playground kids probably act better!? LOL But it’s nothing to laugh about honestly. I hope things get better soon. It’s really heartbreaking on so many levels.


  5. Amen to all of this! I have never understood why people argue on social media. It’s like writing out an argument on billboards and hanging it up alongside the highway. No one else needs to see what two people have to say to one another in anger, and why do the arguing parties think that publicly fighting is going to solve anything??? I find that people are much more gutsy over the internet than they are in person, which is rather revealing about the courage-cowardice balance in their lives.

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    • janieleeds says:

      Wonderfully put! I agree. It’s as if the computer screen allows them to act in ways that they wouldn’t dare face to face.
      It’s a sad world where we are so torn in two by differences instead of connecting even loosely in order to survive the stormy turbulence.
      I love my eclectic band of friends who are all different and precious to me, each for the gem that they are. How boring would life be if we all were so similar? We can learn and we grow from our differences. If we choose…

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  6. hbsuefred says:

    Well, I’m in the middle of a divorce which feels like it will never end. The best part of the contract I signed with my lawyer was the part where I agreed not to put any of my nasty thoughts about and hurtful reactions to the possob (Piece of Sxxt, Son of a You Know What) I am unfortunately still tied to on social media. I have instead handled those through person-to-person emails which I am keeping until hopefully one day this whole mess is settled. Then, of course, I will be able to put all that in my blog. Do you think I will still want to by then?

    In this situation, and probably also in the one you’ve described, it’s probably not really worth anybody’s effort to try to hash it out in any form of communication since none of the parties will probably listen to any of the other parties with anything near an open mind. It might be kind of fun, though, just to observe whatever crap they’re lobbing at each other, just for sheer entertainment value while shaking your head at what a waste of time and energy it is, or in my case with possob, would be.


    • janieleeds says:

      I just sit back and don’t get involved because it’s not my battle, nor is it worth it to get involved with other relatives’ issues. But if I could help, I probably would. Then again, nope, I’m not.
      I would stay out of the fray with the STBX (soon-to-be-ex) and keep myself completely clean and follow the lawyer’s contract. Good for you.
      And to answer your question: “Do you think I will still want to by then?” That is up to you. I would think you may want to take a quick look to measure how far you’ve healed, but then you can clear them out afterwards because you will have moved on and will want to be passed it.
      Sometimes it’s a matter of baby steps…best of luck to you!!


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