I only ever wanted to have closure. I had hoped that when we divorced, we could stay kind, but that was not meant to be. We couldn’t even co-parent. Not to mention, the ex’s narcissistic mother was inserting herself into the divorce at every turn. Inciting her son to be empowered and angry when his anger was a result of his shame. But that’s a story for another day. She doesn’t know why we divorced. She only knows he said, “I don’t want to do this anymore.” But the back story remains a mystery to all. So of course, in her mind, it has to have been my fault. Narcissists can’t have it be their fault ever. So it’s mine.
She’s kept it up for over 6 years now. The ex-MIL (mother-in-law) with whom I was close when we were married is now a gnarled, angry creature. Not just inside, but now it’s showing. The mask is slipping and she’s having a hard time as she’s losing her mind. Like really losing her mind. The stories I’m hearing (and have been hearing for awhile) are pointing to dementia. I’m not surprised honestly. It’s been coming.
I can see where the ex is probably just tired of the whole divorce thing as am I. We have not been in contact in almost a year. He owes me money and refuses to pay. I want to be set free. Not because I have money, but because I can’t take it anymore. My life and peace are too precious to have this taking up space in my head. So I’m working diligently to figure it out. Staying centered. Earning money and scrimping and saving what I can.
Meanwhile, he lets his mother do his dirty work by saying ugly things about me to our kids. Lies and tall tales abound, but this is not something new. This has just ramped up over time. Probably the dementia kicking in.
Because his family has money, he stands to inherit a lot when his parents die so he won’t ever rock the boat. And that’s his choice. As this is mine – to nail the door shut.