Being me, heart on my sleeve and with every emotion showing across my face in real time, I am easy to read, “like an open book” (as the ex used to say). I wasn’t afraid of being me long ago and feeling each and every emotion as it came in order to be real. Be authentic. Be me.
I am still that way even though during the divorce I tried desperately to not show emotion thinking that it would empower me. The ex saw right through it because he knew me well and it backfired. But it taught me something.
I can still be me (and I refuse to be anyone but me with all of my authentic quirks) which is empowering. Additionally I have honed in the ability to step back in certain situations and process from the observer point of view which helps immensely. In other words, to look at the big picture and deal with the situation and the point at hand without allowing other debris to make it messy.
That has been a huge gift in my life for which I’m really grateful.
I can’t always do it, but it is my priority when I can. Sometimes I need my friends to help me to process the emotional mess out of the way before I can clearly see the issue and how to work through it.
We need each other to share out stories, our experiences and the wisdom that comes from the other side of healing afterwards. Processing a current situation with someone who can help you is key. It makes the journey deeper and I always find nuggets of wisdom when I share with a trusted friend and/or blogger.