I’ve been getting more spiritual lately and one of the other reasons I’ve found that happens in a divorce situation is this: The contract was completed and it was time to move on.
I believe that the people we encounter are for a reason. Some are here to teach us something. Others are for a reason that we may not understand at the time. Others (like the ex) were here for our union and subsequent children’s births. You might think I’ve lost my mind, but read on if you are interested in my theory. And if it resonates with you, let me know.
I think that my kids were to be born from the ex and my union. He was to be there with us for a time and when the ‘contract’ was up, he was freed to leave (and he did). His leaving, even though I didn’t understand it at the time, was for me to be able to grow and to find who I am without being tied to the roles I had taken on by being wife/mom etc. While I am still mom, a role which I adore, and would love to someday be a wife again, I am learning so much about myself without the constraints of marriage.
In other words, he did me a favor by leaving…even though it took me a long time to see it that way. And maybe I’m being delusional to myself in this train of thought that ‘our contract ended’ but it soothes me in a way which is why I’m sharing it with you.
There’s more to my theory, but I’m not sure if this is a good venue to proceed writing about it so I’ll stop now. I read a book called Little Soul and The Sun and that’s how this theory was born.