The ex (my kids’ dad) is coming in this weekend to visit with them. He does this very occasionally so it’s a big deal when he blows into town. He told them to clear their schedules because he’s going to be here, but unfortunately the kids are each working one night of the weekend which now means that each has to visit with dad alone. And the kids do NOT like that at all.
Hence my praying for peace because in the past when they’ve had to deal with their dad, they’re not always happy. How I wish they’d return more often from a dad visit without angry venting because it makes it hard on me. On one hand, I absolutely understand how they feel when they’re complaining about him. On the other, I can sometimes see the ex’s point of view. But the hard part is navigating my own point of view and experiences with the ex and not having them cloud the situation (venting) at hand.
That’s where I pray for peace this weekend since it could be just fine or it could go off the rails and be disastrous. Because the kids don’t talk with their dad about how they feel about things. In the past they’ve tried, but he wouldn’t listen. One time one of the kids poured his heart out to his dad hoping that it would bridge the gap between them. Instead, the ex tattled to his narcissist mommy and she got in the middle of it (where she didn’t belong) and harped on my kid claiming that my kid (her grandson, the child of her son) was being mean to her baby (meaning the ex, the kid’s dad and her son)! And that stopped my kid from ever trusting his dad again. Because what healthy grown man sics his mommy on his own child?
So you can imagine how the kids don’t like to be left alone with their dad without their sibling. Because there’s strength in numbers. I’ve always taught my kids that they are to stay united and always have each other’s backs as they go through this because it is often the case that the ex-MIL plays favorites like their dad does and so it’s a minefield when they have to visit them. Because the favorites change depending on who’s more controllable at the time.
I have made sure I have a nice bottle of wine for myself this weekend in case it’s needed. LOL. In the meantime, I’m just sending out peace in hopes that all goes well. I guess I’ll let you know how it goes.
Do you have these troubles too?