Could You Be An Old Maid?

Do you remember being a kid and playing that card game called Old Maid?  It was a matching game – pairing up like cards until one person is holding the card depicted with an Old Maid on it because she has no partner.

When I was looking up the card game Old Maid, I found that you could play it with a regular deck of cards as well and use the Joker card as the Old Maid.  Then I saw that there are those who call it Black Peter instead of Old Maid.  That made me laugh!  I love to learn something new everyday, especially if it makes me laugh!

While I’d like to eventually find someone special, I’m ok if I don’t remarry. There aren’t any prospects that I’ve met so far, so it’s slim pickings here and I’m not really looking while we’re still in the midst of this pandemic.  I have friends who ventured out into online dating again, but they’ve reported that most of the guys are separated and not divorced which for them is a hard no. We all feel similarly that we want someone who is through the divorce and not in the midst of it or hasn’t even begun.  A clean slate if possible.

Then the conversations turned to what if we don’t find someone? How would we feel if we didn’t remarry or find a partner? Would we be ok as Old Maids? The idea was tossed around that once the kids all leave to have their own families, perhaps we’d get together like the Golden Girls. Each have our own bedroom and en suite for privacy, but have a pool with outdoor patio and a great room with a clicker fireplace (click on/click off).  Some backyard trees for wildlife and we’d be all set!

I have to say I like the idea of a Golden Girls set up with friends.  It would be fun and I’m sure there would be ‘happy hour’ after we retired so that we could get together to chat about our days over cocktails. We are all pretty independent so it would be a nice set up I think.  We aren’t quite sure who would be in the Golden Girls house or where it would be, but I think it would be fun!

What do you think?

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18 Responses to Could You Be An Old Maid?

  1. The V Pub says:

    I like it, and it would provide for some great blogging ideas, too.

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  2. Ainsobriety says:

    Can I come too? Lol
    When I think of old maid, I mostly think of someone who never married, never wanted to have kids.
    But I’m ok with that label too. I can’t imagine every living with someone again. I would love to find somewhere that had opportunities for socialization, but also privacy.

    I still have 5 more years of work, I suppose. That gets me to 55 and my pension. I will have worked for this company for 30 years by the . It seems hard to believe!

    Once I am retired I won’t stay living here, in Fort mcmuarray. It is remote, northern and isolated. I don’t expect either of my kids will live here past high school. Although Cooper plans to be an engineer, he doesn’t see his future in the oil sands industry, which is great.

    For now, I’m trying to make out current house comfortable. I have spring fever and have new plans every day. I’m not sure how far I will get, but the planning and dreaming is fun!

    Anne

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    • janieleeds says:

      Yes, Anne! You can come too! 🙂
      I think of Old Maid as someone who never married, but apparently it also works for those of us who are divorced. Who knew?
      I love the planning and dreaming parts as well. It’s the doing where I need help. I just need a hand to hold and someone to help me stay motivated to actually do it.
      I’m still working on my house and weeding out what no longer suits me nor serves me. It’s about time now that the divorce is years gone by.
      Have a great day!!!

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  3. bone&silver says:

    Oh I think that’s a fabulous idea! You need a guest room too for all the visitors you’d all get. Homelessness here in Australia is a massive problem for women over 55- the fastest growing demographic of new homeless- we definitely need to group together to support each other, with or without long term partners who ‘may’ materialize ❤️

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  4. LA says:

    I clearly want to retire with my best friends who now live in different cities than me

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  5. TJ Fox says:

    I have no idea how I’d feel in your place. When I got divorced from my ex years ago, being alone wasn’t an option for me based on my goals in life at the time. Now, if something happened and I wasn’t with my Hubby, I think I’d be content on my own, as in I wouldn’t need another person around, but I do think I’d want someone around for companionship. You’d be getting that with your group of friends, though.

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  6. cheriewhite says:

    I love your post. I remember playing Old Maid when I was a kid and loved it. As a teenager, I remember worrying about becoming an old maid due to the bullying I suffered in school. But after my last husband died, I was dead set on never getting remarried again- then along came my current husband. It’s funny how they always come along when you aren’t looking and have no interest in marrying again. A Golden Girls type life sounds awesome though and I bet it would be so much fun! You could even go on trips together- maybe rent a beach house and vacay at the beach! That’s the type of life I envision when I reach my 60’s and 70’s. 🙂

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    • janieleeds says:

      I’m happy to meet you Cherie and will stop over to your blog shortly! Thanks for visiting mine and taking the time to chat! I’m inspired by your lovely story even though I’m sorry for your loss of your first husband. That must have been very difficult, but I am glad you have a current one! I am ever hopeful that the right person will come along in my life when I’m not looking – so I’m not looking! LOL
      We talk about the Golden Girls but we haven’t even started anything. It’s just a lovely way to envision a community/connection in the future! Have a great day!!

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      • cheriewhite says:

        Thank you so much, Janie! It’s a pleasure to meet you too. It would very difficult and it took me almost three years to get through the suffering part. I didn’t want to remarry again because I was afraid I’d have to bury another husband. Thank goodness my mother talked to me and told me that I had to go on living and not to let it stop me for living life. I’m so grateful that I had the support I had after that tragedy. And I believe your soulmate will find you when you least expect it. Just wait and see, it will happen. 🙂 ❤

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      • janieleeds says:

        Thank you Cherie for sharing your story. I am glad your mother helped and supported you. I believe that we must go on as well, but I can’t imagine how difficult it must be. I am grateful for you sharing your story…and for your support! I will wait with the knowing that it will happen with Divine Timing. 💕

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      • cheriewhite says:

        You’re so welcome, Janie. And yes, He will direct your path to cross with your soul mate. Amd when he does find you and proposes to you after you’ve dated for a while, feel free to share your joy with your blogger friends. I’ll be so happy for you. 🙂

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      • janieleeds says:

        I have a huge grin on my face just thinking about your response and yes! I will indeed let you all know! :). Thank you Cherie! 💕

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      • cheriewhite says:

        My pleasure! 🙂❤🤗

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