Do you remember the movie Romancing The Stone with Michael Douglas, Kathleen Turner and Danny DeVito? It came out in 1984 when I was in high school. I remember going to see it in the movie theater with friends and loving it. We were at that luscious age when we were devouring romance novels, daydreaming about Prince Charming and crushing on the boys in our school all while trying to determine if he liked us because he did x, y or z because we thought it was romantic. LOL
Do any of you resonate with that memory? Or am I just the naive girl who was surrounded by giggling girlfriends who were thinking all about romance and kissing boys instead of sex back in those days?
Anyway, LA over at wakinguponthewrongsideof50.brings up in her post today about romance and sex with examples from the Big Bang Theory and it got me thinking. Because now that I’m divorced and not dating anyone, there’s zero romance nor sex in my life. Of course the pandemic hasn’t helped me connect with anyone either so that’s a moot point.
But I wonder how I’ll react when he comes into my life? Will I swoon if he starts to romance me a little? Will I be jaded by these past desert years and distrust him? Will I hop into bed with him or will I need to wait? And would he be willing to wait at this age? At this time in society?
Because frankly I’ve had enough of Hallmark stories even though I’d love to believe in them. I don’t. This may be because I binge-watched too many of them over this past year of quarantine and the rote storyline has me exasperated even though I am grinning with the happy ending that the characters have gone through tough times and stay together and all is well.
Do you feel the same way?
After the divorce an old friend offered to take my divorce virginity (I didn’t know that was a thing) – definition as I understand it – have sex with me after my divorce so I could get the first time after divorce over with – hmmmm… I often wondered if it was something he made up to romance me or just get me into bed. LOL. Well, to answer your question on if I took him up on it, “it was a no for. me dog,” to quote Randy Jackson. LOL. But I’ll be honest, I gave him an A for originality and effort!
Why didn’t I take him up on it? Well because we briefly dated in high school and while we’re friendly, I didn’t want to have sex with him nor anyone else at the time. Do I regret it now? Nope. I’m still holding out for a connection with someone.
What about you?