I See You

All I ever wanted was for someone to say, “I see you” to me. “I see you” as if I understand you. I acknowledge what you’re saying to me. I am here for you. I know you exist. I can feel your energy. I am by your side. Etc. Etc. Etc.

Isn’t that a universal thing? Or is it just me? Because I like to ‘see’ people and be there for them. And I treasure when that feeling is reciprocated.

I think that sometimes we are so wound up in our own stories/lives/difficulties that we don’t take the time to process them with a trusted friend, nor do we open ourselves up to be there for someone else. We don’t ‘see’ them, nor ourselves.

Does that make sense to you?

Awareness is key to healing. The choice to be vulnerable is another.

What do you think?

This entry was posted in finding happiness at 50, inspiration, love and tagged , , . Bookmark the permalink.

13 Responses to I See You

  1. scr4pl80 says:

    Makes absolute sense. We all need that.

    Like

  2. Ainsobriety says:

    Yes. When I quit drinking and addressed my underlying mental health, I realized that the secret to life is to be in the moment.
    I try to give people my full attention whenever we interact. All people. Somehow my openness encourages others to open up to me. It happens all the time and I feel honoured that I am a safe space.

    I deeply appreciate when I find others who can give me this same space. It is not that common…people are distracted.

    Like

    • janieleeds says:

      Again, please accept my congratulations on quitting drinking and all the healing you’ve done Anne! You should be so proud of yourself for all that you’ve done! You’re an inspiration!

      I love to be in the present moment with people and yes, I agree, they seem to blossom and share when I am with them as well. Must be your good energy that has them being so open with you!

      I think people are tremendously more distracted these days, especially lately I’m feeling it. Probably that new full moon!?

      Like

  3. Dwight Hyde says:

    I totally agree. I’m fortunate that I’ve got a friend where we each allow ourselves to be seen and provide each other that loving space to be vulnerable. It’s interesting because many of my friends know hardly anything about me. I’m usually the listener and questions asker. I feel out here I’m being seen, but I do crave the “live” experience.

    Like

    • janieleeds says:

      First, I see you Dwight. Second, I am glad you’ve got a friend who can see you and whom you can see as well. I treasure those friendships I have with others who are similar. As for the ‘live’ I get it. I think we’re all wanting that these days. Have a great week!

      Liked by 1 person

  4. petespringerauthor says:

    It makes perfect sense to me. When we share our own vulnerabilities and troubles, others can empathize because everyone has problems, even if they’re not the same ones. All we want is to be heard.

    Like

  5. LA says:

    Totally makes sense!

    Liked by 1 person

  6. TJ Fox says:

    I think it is because we associate being seen as also being valued, but it is in a way that is more specific. I can hold value for the things I do or have or give, but that may not be “me”. We want the acknowledgement that we are more than just one thing. That we are a whole, complete, complicated being with thoughts and feelings and flaws and we want others to see all of those things and still accept us as is. While being seen and being valued are not the same, they are tied tightly together. Because when we feel seen, we know someone cared enough to take the time to look deeper than the surface.

    Like

  7. hbsuefred says:

    This goes well with your previous post on eyes. I think you’re on to something here!

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s