Next Sunday is Mother’s Day. While I hadn’t thought of what I wanted to do, apparently the ex has invited our kids on Mother’s Day to dinner to celebrate his mother (their Grandma) and his family.
The worst part is that his entire family will be there so all of my kids’ cousins whom they haven’t seen in months will be there too. And my kids want to go…
Can you hear my little sob from there?
Alone on Mother’s Day…because they’d prefer to be with their cousins and the ex’s family because it’s more fun…and because they live with me.
And I get it. I do. But it still tugs at my heart. Because I know that witch of an ex-MIL is thrilled that again she has my kids on a holiday. There’s zero compassion from them towards me. She delights in my kids choosing their cousins (the ex’s family) over me. She tells people this, so that’s how I know. And it stinks.
I can’t make my kids stay here with their Mom whom they live with 24/7 citing “it’s Mother’s Day and you can’t leave me alone by myself and go off with them.” Because it looks bad on me. Even though they shouldn’t be put in that position. But they are. Every single holiday.
Part of me is thinking, ok, let’s have lunch and celebrate Mother’s Day together and then they can go off to see their cousins with their dad’s family. That way, I have a little me time, maybe pamper myself, take a bubble bath without interruption….and not have to cook dinner! But the thorn will be that the ex’s mom will make sure she highlights that my kids are not with their mom (me), but instead with her. She announces it every holiday.
Can you see how as the ex-wife of a narcissist, the apple didn’t fall far from the tree because the ex-MIL is a huge narcissist! Bigger than he is…
Can I say how much I truly, truly dislike her?
Then again, it would warm my heart if my kids didn’t fall for the ‘come see your cousins’ carrot dangled in front of them only on holidays. Because they all live close by, but only get together when it leaves me alone on a holiday.
Any advice is appreciated. I’m just feeling sorry for myself.