Cranky Gen X Observations

Scrolling through Facebook this morning, it seemed like every Mom had something to say about their kid. While I don’t share photographs of my kids on social media, it made me think about how different we are from our parents and even our kids.

Examples:

“My Evan won the track meet!” – followed by 4 photos of him and one 5 minute video of Evan running.

“Darla painted this picture! Isn’t she the best artist ever?” – followed by a badly focused photo of said painting held by the 5 year old granddaughter.

“George signed with University of Z!” – followed by a photo of George looking uncomfortable with a handwritten poster that read “Congratulations” in different colored markers.

And all I could think of was that my Mom, nor any of her friends, would have posted any of our accomplishments on social media for they always thought it was in bad taste to brag…and air dirty laundry so Mom certainly wouldn’t have approved of my blog. LOL

Perhaps I’ve woken up a bit cranky this morning. I didn’t sleep very well last night so maybe it shows. But what the heck? Here it goes…

Why does anyone want to watch 5 minutes of Evan running? Really? I don’t even know your kid because we’ve met through mutual friends. Sure I’ll throw a LIKE on the main post, but why do you think it’s necessary to add the video? I’d love to know who actually watched it and didn’t just LIKE it to be nice.

Darla looks tired, like she’s spent a day at Grandma’s and needs a nap. I don’t think she’s really going to be an artist, but who knows? Because we’re friends, I’ll probably LIKE and write something nice because little kids need encouragement. And maybe you need validation.

“Congrats to George” is what I’ll probably write since just a LIKE doesn’t seem like it would suffice. In the back of my mind I wonder how long she had to plead for George to take the photo and hold the sign that his sister probably begrudgingly wrote (or my friend did). The side of George I know isn’t one to acquiesce for photos, let alone be memorialized on his Mom’s FB wall in an embarrassing way.

Oh, I am grumpy, huh? I’m sorry. But seriously? I can barely stand social media anymore because it seems it’s ramped up to a ridiculous level. Do you feel this way too?

“Look at me! – Look at my perfect meal! My perfect family! My toes in the sand because I’m on vacation! It’s my grandkid’s birthday! 35 years ago today it was my Gramp’s last birthday!”

Seriously?

Or the “Buy my new cream! Donate to XYZ fundraiser for my birthday! You’re invited to like my page!”

I don’t know why it irks me so today, but it does. If you’ve made it this far in reading my cynical post, please give me a giggle and share in the comments a FB post that irked you so that I don’t feel so badly. Come on…you know one….or two….or…

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19 Responses to Cranky Gen X Observations

  1. TJ Fox says:

    I am only connected to people that I actually care about those things and want to see in my feed for that very reason. I love getting to see how my friends lives and families are doing, especially those I don’t live close to, but I really don’t give a single crap about those same things for acquaintances that I don’t know well.

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    • janieleeds says:

      I think I should have said acquaintances that I felt pressured to accept as friends. I wish I had a feed of friends that I care about and then another of acquaintances so that if I were inclined to see what they’re up to, I could! You’re smart. You didn’t connect with the others…good for you!

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  2. Posted something on FB just for you! I too rarely post about my baby or the grandkids, cos of same reasons as you and also because their parents don’t like their photos on social media. I don’t think of you as being cranky, more like it’s great observations. Posting pics of one’s toxic narcissistic mom and ADULT siblings lined up in a weirdly Oedipal photo shoot for their family band cover photo seems to say more than I think they know. Right?

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  3. scr4pl80 says:

    Agree 100%, although I have been guilty of the occasional post of the kids accomplishments as well. I do it for family/friends that are long distance mostly.

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    • janieleeds says:

      Hey Janet! That I understand because long distance family does need that so I guess I’m just being cranky…thanks for responding! 🙂

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      • scr4pl80 says:

        Oh, I agree with you about the bragging stuff and it’s not just kids either, it’s vacations they take and things they buy…how wonderful their life is…who are they trying to convince, us or themselves?

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      • janieleeds says:

        I think they need to portray a certain view of themselves. And good for them. It’s fine honestly, but in small doses is easier to take. At least in my opinion.

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  4. LA says:

    Ok. Here’s my thoughts. My mom never said anything nice about me at all. This is nad for self esteem. Kids do need praise from their parents. If your mom doesn’t think you’re great, who will? However….be careful what and how often. My daughter drew ten pictures a day when she was under 4. To post all of them on Facebook would be ridiculous. Maybe just take your favorite and put it in a frame in your house. The race thing is a little different. Do people want to watch? 99%…no. However, Facebook is the best way to share stuff with family. Do I want to see my third grade best friends granddaughters race? No. Do I want to see my niece? Yes.

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    • janieleeds says:

      Well put LA! I like what you said and how you said it. Yes, I think I need to cull my friends list because there are acquaintances that are eating up my feed when I don’t see those whom I care genuinely want to see. I’m SOOO sorry your Mom never said anything nice about you. You’re such a caring, intelligent and kind woman. That makes me sad…but I’m glad you’re praising your daughter and infusing her with good self-esteem. I think we all try to do that!

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  5. The V Pub says:

    Social media has become the new Stepford Wives. Eerily homogenous and fake.

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  6. Ainsobriety says:

    I do post some stuff about my kids, more as a general here’s how things are going….

    I consider all Facebook fake. Most people post about the life they wish they had…some post real life and I love that.

    I would say I post things that interest and inspire me. I can also be a Facebook arguer….and I take that inclination as a sign I need to focus on my own life and mind my own business!

    Sometimes I debate leaving Social media, but I don’t. Sigh.

    Anne

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    • janieleeds says:

      Hi Anne! I like my Facebook to be happy and peaceful, but that’s just me. I’m not saying it’s bad to post about your family as I like to see the happy! But sometimes it’s overboard and that gets me annoyed.

      I haven’t left social media either. I find some of it interesting so I keep going back, but not as often and I’m more choosy these days.

      We all have to do what we need to do.

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  7. Jonathan says:

    The number of show-off parents that use their children to boast winds me up too.

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