The ex is back to lying again and this time, there’s something smelly going on. It’s not a rarity for him to lie, nor for me to catch him in his lies. That’s something I’ve been doing for years now even though I’m certain he’s gotten a few past me. But I really don’t care about his lies, unless they affect me directly or the kids.
While most of his lies don’t affect me directly, except when he lies about having or not having a job and the salary of it because that’s part of our divorce agreement. Otherwise, I will admit to finding his absurdist lies amusing when he thinks that nobody realizes he’s lying.
I’ve come a long way from the woman who trusted and believed him unconditionally. I thank my lucky stars that I woke up, took off the rose-colored glasses and looked at the reality and not what I’d been conditioned to seeing.
Narcissists lie about everything. Whether it’s a teensy lie that doesn’t affect anything or a big whopper. It doesn’t matter. And they don’t keep track of the lies which is a whole other issue. What they don’t think of is that people compare notes and that there are a few among us who are watching and following along.
He’s been lying to my kids for ages now and the things he’s saying are not good which is why I’m now being more vigilant again because his story doesn’t add up. It has to do with his finances which affects us because of the divorce. I’m bracing myself for something that I probably won’t like financially.
If you’re dealing with a narcissist, keep your eyes open and your mouth shut. You’ll get more information that way because they love to brag about themselves. Just take everything and divide it a few times until you find the kernel of half-truth. It’s like looking for a needle in a haystack.