Liar Liar Pants On Fire

The ex is back to lying again and this time, there’s something smelly going on. It’s not a rarity for him to lie, nor for me to catch him in his lies. That’s something I’ve been doing for years now even though I’m certain he’s gotten a few past me. But I really don’t care about his lies, unless they affect me directly or the kids.

While most of his lies don’t affect me directly, except when he lies about having or not having a job and the salary of it because that’s part of our divorce agreement. Otherwise, I will admit to finding his absurdist lies amusing when he thinks that nobody realizes he’s lying.

I’ve come a long way from the woman who trusted and believed him unconditionally. I thank my lucky stars that I woke up, took off the rose-colored glasses and looked at the reality and not what I’d been conditioned to seeing.

Narcissists lie about everything. Whether it’s a teensy lie that doesn’t affect anything or a big whopper. It doesn’t matter. And they don’t keep track of the lies which is a whole other issue. What they don’t think of is that people compare notes and that there are a few among us who are watching and following along.

He’s been lying to my kids for ages now and the things he’s saying are not good which is why I’m now being more vigilant again because his story doesn’t add up. It has to do with his finances which affects us because of the divorce. I’m bracing myself for something that I probably won’t like financially.

If you’re dealing with a narcissist, keep your eyes open and your mouth shut. You’ll get more information that way because they love to brag about themselves. Just take everything and divide it a few times until you find the kernel of half-truth. It’s like looking for a needle in a haystack.

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9 Responses to Liar Liar Pants On Fire

  1. LA says:

    I’m sorry you’re dealing with this now. Extra hug

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  2. Dwight Hyde says:

    I’ll say it again, I’m so sorry you have to deal with this loser and his shenanigans. You deserve so much better!🤗😊❤️

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  3. Ainsobriety says:

    I think the best path forward for people is to try to limit how reliant they are on ongoing financial support from the ex.
    If possible, take a lump sum over monthly spousal support. Relying on the ex to pay long term is dicey.

    Of course, child support is ongoing until the kids are adult. This can’t be avoided. At least there seems to be some recourse for collecting this.

    My ex is a disaster. I am glad I don’t rely on his money. To date he has always paid his child support. He will owe me child support for Cleo for a few more years (she turned 16 today), but Cooper is 18 on Sunday. If all works out Craig will be providing housing for him while he is at university….but I’m keeping my expectations that they work out low.

    As always, I am now deeply grateful that I stayed working all these year. You just never know. Sigh.

    Anne

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  4. fyidivorce says:

    I feel your frustration. 😦

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  5. bone&silver says:

    Grrrrrr- deadbeat men who don’t support their own children drives me CRAZY! So glad you’re onto it 💪🏿💪🏿

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