Releasing Stuff

I’ve started spring cleaning. Yes, I know I’m a bit late in doing it, but I’m one of those who have to start when I’m motivated and not before. Otherwise I can’t get it done. Are you like that too?

But the spring cleaning doesn’t have to do with any scrubbing (although that’s next)! It has to do with paring down my life. I’ve had a hard time letting go of the thoughts of ‘what it should have been’ and ‘what it used to be’ and ‘what it could have been’ for so long that I realized that these thoughts about life stymied me.

Additionally, I started going through my household items, clothing, shoes and tchotchkes and Marie Kondo-ing my universe. You know who she is, right? The one that organizes and wants you to ask yourself ‘if this item sparks joy’ in order to keep it.

Personally, it takes me WAYYYY out of my comfort zone. Because I don’t think of things as eliciting joy. I think of them as sweet memories. Talismans if you will. Snippets of time that I can hold onto by holding on to the item.

Example: I wore this when we went there and that was the great night that xyz happened. Or Aunt Sally gave me this when I was ten and told me that it was her favorite bracelet and that I should keep it to remember her by. (Note Sally’s been dead for over 40 years and I never wear the bracelet). But how do I get rid of these things?

But I’m learning. Growing. And doing it, with baby steps. Totally outside my comfort zone. Because in some way I feel like I’m losing a part of me by releasing the stuff. I know that sounds probably very odd to you, but it’s how I feel.

Does anyone else understand this?

P.S. And no, I still don’t have my wedding dress. That I donated to my high school as a costume for the play many many years ago and funny enough, that wasn’t hard to do.

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16 Responses to Releasing Stuff

  1. Duncan Lory says:

    A sas feeling I get from this. Very sad.

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  2. The V Pub says:

    When my best friend died suddenly in 2018, I was overwhelmed with the need to possess as many items that reminded me of him. We had been friends since we were 7 and his loss created a hole in who I thought I was. I think that over time, I’ll only keep a few items, as I learn that his memory in my heart is the most important thing.

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  3. LA says:

    You know I love getting rid of stuff…I figure the memories are in my head….

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  4. scr4pl80 says:

    I totally get this. Take pictures and make a scrapbook of “Precious Memories” and then let the physical stuff go. Easier to say than do sometimes. Good luck.

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  5. ❀ My daughter said to me yesterday that she takes photographs of things and then lets them go. I had never thought of doing that. I am a ruthless de-clutterer, but I struggle with letters, especially from those who have passed and photos. ❀ Janie, you will create your own way with this. ❀ Xx

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  6. Beth W. says:

    I can relate to wanting to hold on to things for sentimental reasons. Gifts from my grandma or my mom who are both gone now. I did the Marie Kondo thing and I did get rid of a lot of clothing. I seem to be able to part with that without much trauma. It’s the little knick nacks that I may have until I’m gone πŸ˜‰ I do like the idea of taking photos and then maybe passing that item to a family member or friend who may treasure it ❀

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  7. R. Triste says:

    I want to let go of stuff too — and people. More than anything.

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