Fighting Like High School Girls

I have some friends/acquaintances who are going at it hard, fighting on social media. It’s bizarre to me as it’s reminiscent of mean girl fights in high school which I stayed away from at all costs. Middle-aged women snapping at each other over trivial stuff is pathetic. While I have yet to unfriend/unfollow them, I am always surprised to see to what depths they are willing to fall in order to call out the other person via their minions.

Human nature often mesmerizes me, especially when I am the observer and not put directly into the fray. And yes, I’m thankful I’m not in the middle of it. I chose to walk away from what I felt was simmering awhile back because this was what I felt was coming.

It’s easy to be the observer when it’s not your business. Like that Monday morning quarterbacking phrase, right? Sure, I knew this should have been said/done or I told you this would happen. Blah blah blah…

But what still shocks me is that these two were friendly before this blew up and what they’re fighting about is my opinion is plain silliness. It’s not about the issue at hand, it’s about one’s entitlement to be heard no matter the cost. Because by their posting on social media, those not in the loop of what’s going on, just see mean posts about ‘her’ and what ‘she’ did to me or how ‘I am being spoken of badly behind my back.’ It’s just bizarre to watch and so not worth my time.

Have you ever witnessed this type of behavior? I hope you haven’t been stuck in the middle of anything similar! Isn’t it so uncomfortable when people do this, especially on social media? What has our world come to?

Do you think maybe it’s a result of what’s been going on in the world? The covid, the masks, the fear, the quarantine, the work from home, the isolation and stress has finally unglued some people?

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12 Responses to Fighting Like High School Girls

  1. The V Pub says:

    I think all of what you said are possibilities, if not a combination of them all. I’d add social media itself is part of the problem. People are generally kinder to one another if they’re face to face.


    • janieleeds says:

      I agree with you Rob. Social media and the ability to say whatever you want in the heat of the moment from behind a screen increases the problem. Because face to face, you may not be as cruel. (at least I’d hope they wouldn’t be!)


  2. Unlike our high school days, the meanness now gets shouted beyond the hallways. These women say things off the cuff while tapping furiously on their phones. I don’t think they’d say the same things in person. As an author, I need to have a social media presence but I’ve become more discriminating. During quarantine, I rarely looked at Facebook. The pettiness and attacks are toxic for me to read. We are all under great stress and feeling lack of control. For some, it comes out in verbal attacks online and backstabbing. One thing I’ve learned during this pandemic nightmare: life is too short and sweet to spend time in petty arguments and meanness. I selectively choose my reading and friends now and no longer feel compelled to defend my positions on social media. It’s a losing battle anyway and makes you feel like crap.

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  3. petespringerauthor says:

    I don’t know if this holds true to these two or not, but I do know that some people always seem to insert themselves into drama or create their own. Life is so much simpler getting along with people. If somebody says something offensive, nine times out of ten, I don’t bother to respond. Why look for trouble?


    • janieleeds says:

      We call that taking the high road in our home. Not that we don’t speak our truth here when sometimes it’s more difficult to hear, but yes, I agree. There are people who thrive on drama and making mountains out of mole hills. And these 2 are doing just that…unfortunately.


  4. LA says:

    Mental health, emotional issues…all pandemic related. It’s only going to get worse


  5. ... says:

    I agree with what you are saying, unfortunately it goes against human nature to be humble and admit defeat or that you are wrong. I have deleted my facebook account so people have to see me in person, email, text or call. You are welcome to contact me if you wish.


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