MRI Update

So I asked the older kid to come with me to the brain MRI. I wasn’t going to ask him. I was just going by myself like I’ve done so many other times even though I’m hugely claustrophobic and hate needles (gotta have contrast as well).

My self talk after divorce:

Just do it yourself. Don’t bother people. You can do this on your own. Be a big girl. Don’t be a baby about it.You’ve been through this before. You know what it’s like. You can handle this. You don’t need to inconvenience anyone because you’re uncomfortable. Just do it. Stop whining. You may need them for something more serious. Blah Blah Blah…

But a good friend who couldn’t get off work to go with me suggested I ask him so that he begins to see in real-time what’s going on and maybe gets a sense of the importance in what’s happening because he doesn’t seem to get it. He’s oblivious to anything I’ve been saying in regards to taking care of his dog more etc. And he’s never been exposed to what I’ve been dealing with health-wise over the years. But I think it’s time.

Because someday he may need to step up and help me again or help his wife/girlfriend and he needs to know how things are done. Not that I’m hoping that he’ll have to deal with anything like this, but it’s a good way to learn how to navigate the health care system, keep a cool head when getting bad news and asking the right questions and doing research when it’s something important. I mean, why not teach him, right?

So I’ll let you know how it goes. It’ll be a first for him to be there with me while I’m having the MRI. The ex (his dad) was always good about coming with me for this test because he knew I was claustrophobic and it helped to have someone in the room with me, tapping on my leg so that I knew I wasn’t alone. It helped because I wasn’t allowed to take any sedatives or do an open MRI. Wish me luck.

Update: So he went with me. I think it was a bit of an eye-opener, but overall, a good experience. It was he who was encouraging me, supporting me and that was a good thing – a good role reversal – which I think benefitted us both. When we got home, the older one suggested that Mom could use an ice cream run (how thoughtful!) so the younger one took me for a drive and a milkshake. It was a good handover between siblings, and I loved it.

So now we wait to see what shows on the MRI. Next week I’ll get some answers, hopefully.

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16 Responses to MRI Update

  1. E.A. Wickham says:

    That was a very good idea to have your son go with you. You need support and your son stepped up.

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  2. The V Pub says:

    That was a very nice thing to do. It shows compassion and love.

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  3. Beth W. says:

    So happy to hear that the oldest stepped up and was supportive and thoughtful! Sometimes it is difficult to ask for help, but it’s awesome when it works out like it did. So sweet of him to recognize how stressful it was for you and to be kind and encouraging ❀ Gotta love it when the kiddos surprise us in a good way, right! πŸ™‚ I hope the ice cream was yummy! Praying that the results come in quickly and that you get some hopeful answers! ❀

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    • janieleeds says:

      Thanks Beth! Ice cream was awesome – how could it not be, it’s ice cream! πŸ™‚ LOL but the company and the caring, well, that was the icing on the cake for me. Now to get some answers…yup, sometime next week…Thanks for the prayers. ❀️


  4. scr4pl80 says:

    I am glad he went with you. I suspect they might get scared too and maybe by being with you they can learn some things that will help them deal with it all too.

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  5. petespringerauthor says:

    I think this was a smart move on your part. I know it’s not the same thing, but as a teacher,, I found that kids often rose to the occasion when given a task of importance.

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    • janieleeds says:

      I agree Pete and that’s why I did it. Because they’re not babies and they need to learn how to handle life’s ups and downs with me now before they’re set out on their own…and rise to the occasion. Absolutely!

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  6. LA says:

    Good luck!πŸ’—


  7. YellowCable says:

    Best wishes to you.


  8. hbsuefred says:

    They all gotta learn sometime! And we do, too. Here’s a link on that subject.
    I’m sure you’re not suicidal and I know your kids aren’t toddlers, but the advice given is still applicable.


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